- 7 years ago
- Wedding: January 2014
Love my promise ring, but very excited about the engagement ring that should be coming very soon!
Am I the only one who lolled at my man when he gave me a promise ring? I weear it, but I told him its kinda juvenile and I am not in high school. I did not even tell ppl when I got it to me it was an attempt to shut me up which worked but not for the reasons he intended. I shut up because I realized that I must really be making a big deal over marriage If he felt the need to give me this load of bollocks. Told him he should have saved that money for the ring. Like shit or get off the pot already you know? Such a waste of money and it really didn not make me feel good or anything. Just made me feel childish and immature. That is just me though and he did this right before my friends wedding…hrrrrm what good timing to keep me quiet during that event….honestly it hurt my feelings and got my hopes up when I saw the box. I anyway if u ladies are happy that’s good. I’m happy for you. This kind of stuff just seems like another excuse to stall the engagement IMO.
@Moonlight_Densetsu: You sound bitter. : ( I can’t say I don’t agree with you a bit, though.
SO jokingly brought up a promise ring last year. He wasn’t serious; I didn’t realize that. I looked at him dead in the eye and told him I would flip out if he presented a promise ring to me at our ages and after the years we have been together. He was like, “Whoa! Whoa! Don’t worry!”
I don’t think it’s necessarily a ploy to stall an engagement. I just assume that bees who have promise rings have been with their SO since highschool or early in college.
I’m already engaged but thought I’d share the promise ring my Fiance gave me on our 100 day anniversary (significant in my culture). It’s an 18k white gold ring with a small diamond and he has a matching one. They each have a small groove/notch in them that makes the ring look chipped broken. But when we put them together, they form a heart!
@Moonlight_Densetsu: I think promise rings are sweet. I don’t see them typically as a way to “stall” or “shut up” a woman. They usually are given earlier on in the relationship to express love without being ready for the full commitment of engagement.
As someone else pointed out, you sound bitter. Clearly from your post, you’v been waiting far too long for you boyfriend to make up his mind whether to marry you or not. Sorry you have to go through that. Must be a real self esteem killer…wouldn’t work for me.
Got mine on our 1 year, he had always talked about NEVER getting married again and we had gotten into a fight about it.
I got my promise ring after just a few months of dating for christmas. I wore it on and off for exactly 7 years till I got my ering. I did wear it on the wedding finger until we were engaged. Then I had it re-sized so I could wear it for special occations.
@Moonlight_Densetsu: You realy sound bitter!
I think a promise ring hasn’t that much to do with age, lenght of relationship or being juvenile, it’s a mans or couples personal choice to have one, even when they are out of highschool etc.
When my SO just started his previous job on a temporary contract, he promised to save up for a ring. He lost that job because of the poor economy, got cardiac problems and had terrible high medical expenses. There won’t be an engagement ring in the nearby future, because he cannot afford one and doesn’t want to propose without one.
If he would buy me a small “promise ring” I would wear it with pride and would be more than happy, knowing that he’s wants to marry me one day,, when the situation is better. FYI: we are together for over 2 years, living together and out of college for a long time!
Here is mine 🙂 It was my Christmas present from him after dating for 9 months.
It’s not a great picture but this is mine. I got it for Christmas after we had been together for 19 months. My favourite colour is blue and he picked it on his own. It’s topaz with two chips of diamond 🙂 also sorry the image is so big!
@gemgirl6: my self esteem is not tied up in waiting for some guy to marry me. Frankly, it’s his loss if we do not end up married. I am a realist I have no qualms about being alone I can find someone else eventually if this does not work out. I think it will but if not what can I do? I have been with him three years and no I haven’t been expecting marriage that long. I just feel that it’s time to take things to the next level. my issue is that he says his mind is made up so why bother with a promise ring? That is all. Im annoyed but too young and too full of potential to be bitter.
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