Post # 1
Inspired by the earlier post of futuremrspaulino, I went to my parents’ place and brought my gown.
From the start my mom did not like this gown. She said the skirt was so messy. Well now, seeing it in person, she said it’s beautiful 🙂 She still thinks the skirt is messy and she doesn’t like that there are petals with edges that are starting to look frayed. But, she didn’t want to cover it. I don’t mind the fraying parts because it kinda looks like it belongs with the dress, and seeing that it is a sample and I’ve traveled with it, it’s kinda expected.
Anyway, the only changes that she was requesting for is to get rid of the gray ribbon and replace it with white, and to add like a sheer underlay (is that what you call it) to cover the bare parts of my chest, shoulders, back, and arms.
What do you all think?
Here’s my dress when I tried it on to show her. Sure, we had a hard time zipping it up, but I promise I will try to lose a few more pounds:
And the sheer/illusion neckline might look like something like this without any of the appliques
Post # 3
Glad to hear your mom came around! You could always make a compromise with her and wear an ivory ribbon and overlay type coverup for the ceremony. Then take off the overlay and add on the grey ribbon for the reception. Didn’t you say the grey was in your color scheme and that’s why you kept it? I changed it to the ivory because grey wasn’t one of my colors and I’m also having it sewn on so it’s more of a belt (with no bow).
Post # 4
I think that allusion sleeves or neckline would be too much with a very intricate dress. If your mom really wants the shoulders covered, just go for a bolero (very simple, not lace).
I think the gray ribbon is in bad shape anyway, so I would replace it, and make it white to make your mom feel like she had some input in your dress. It won’t take anything away from the look, and if it makes her happy, fabulous!
Post # 5
I personally would switch out the ribbon for white and then find a different way of covering up my shoulders for the ceremony. It looks so great on you; I wouldn’t want to add the sheer sleeves or neckline. And for what it’s worth, I love the look of the skirt!
Post # 6
Awe! The grey ribbon is my favorite part of the dress! Beautiful!
Post # 7
I agree with PP, I wouldn’t add the sleeves. Could you do like a shawl or something for the ceremony?
Post # 8
It’s amazing! Keep the grey ribbon but maybe sew tiny cream pearls and crystal AB swarovskis on it? Then it would be within the scheme, and you would be being a bit accomodating to your mum too but bride-ing it up a bit… But yeah I love it!
Post # 10
Switching the gray ribbon is up to you. This dress is gorgeous, I tried it on but I personally didn’t want the grey ribbon for my wedding, though it’s beautiful on the dress.
I definitely would not put a sheer underlay underneath though, Just cover up some other way for the ceremony if you must.
Post # 11
I think it looks good; have to agree with the previous posters about the illusion neckline- might be a lot going on. I personally am switching the ribbon to white/ivory, and wearing it more like a belt (like jwillk) , so if you change the ribbon I think it would still look good! But don’t stress too much about pleasing your mom, remember its your wedding!
Post # 12
Sorry, but I think your mom has way too many opinions on how to wear your wedding dress! Not trying to sound rude, but she needs to back off. Your dress is stunning as is 🙂
Post # 13
i think it would be too much with the sheer underlay, i think its better as it is. you can add a bolero to cover up in the church
Post # 14
no sheer sleeves, it willl look like a figure skaters costume! try a nice bolero, or cashmere shrug!
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
Oh I love it as is! What about a bolero to wear during the ceremony and take it off during the reception? Would she compromise? Those pictures of the sheer sleeves are pretty too though. I am just a very visual person and have a hard time imagining what your dress would look like with coverage.
Post # 16
Loose the gray ribbon. The dress is beautiful. You could have sheer cap sleeved bolero that you wear under during the ceremony and remove for the reception.