Post # 1
I haven’t been to a shower in so long! I have been invited to my friend’s son’s shower, it is a gay wedding which me & hubby will be invited to also (we got a save-the-date). I am perfectly fine with it, no problem there. I really don’t like showers much, and I want to go to the wedding, but maybe skip the shower? Is that rude?
They are registered, and there is a lot of affordable stuff on the registry. But I have a couple of other ideas on what I would like to give, if I go to the shower. Is it rude to buy gifts apart from the registry? To just ignore it? I have a breakfast sandwich maker I love, and I would get one for them. And maybe a couple of basic cookbooks.
Post # 2
DanaWeddingGuest: i loved getting gifts that werent on my registry. I would appreciate a sandwih maker but maybe this couple wouldn’t so I would give a gift receipt in case they don’t want It. Some people think they just waste space.
I just wanted to add, its never rude to give a gift thats not on the registry. Its the thought that counts, and further more that you thought to give them a gift they thought would find useful.
Some of my favorite gifts were ones that i didnt add on my registry and people gave me 🙂
Post # 3
I agree with the P. P., about the gift receipt.
Way back in the stone age, when I got married, registries weren’t generally used for showers. I got 3 crockpots and returned them all. Although some people use them all the time, and swear by them, I don’t. I like to have as few gadgets to store as possible and chose those that have multiple uses.
Post # 4
I would just say that if you go off the registry I would include a gift receipt incase it isn’t something they would use or like. People usually really put a lot of thought into their registries and get really excited about getting things from it. So I usually try and buy something from the registry and then add a little something else off registry.
Post # 5
PPs have given you good advice; I just wanted to add that declining to attend the shower altogether is not rude, if you don’t want to go. You don’t need to give a reason.
Post # 6
It is not rude to go off registry. It is also not rude to decline the invitation, just do RSVP.
Post # 7
Thank you everybody! Yes, I will include a gift receipt. Except for a cookbook, if I get them one. They have to eat, and everyone has to get ideas what to make.