(Closed) Shower AND Wedding gift?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
14496 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes.  =P  “Normal” for my area/circle is a smaller physical gift in the range of $25-$50 for shower, then cash gifts for the wedding anywhere from $100-$400.  People who RSVP’ed no sent a gift also.

Post # 5
7902 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’ve always given both and I certainly received both. I’m sure these thigns might be different for different social groups and maybe in different regions, but I’ve never encountered a situation in which separate gifts were not given at both occassions.

Post # 6
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Where I grew up you bought a gift off their registry $20-$60 for th shower and then either stuck money in a card or purchased another more expensive gift off their registry $50-$150 for the wedding. If you RSVP’d no you do not send a gift unless you are exceptionally close to the couple. Where I currently live it is another story all together : (

Post # 7
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

A shower gift and a wedding gift is the norm in my area (if you are invited to the shower). Shower gifts tend to be between $20 – $50, wedding gifts $100+. The wedding gift can be either a physical gift or cash.

Post # 9
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Where I am from, both are expected. It is kind of ridiculous especially since I have been to a wedding shower, engagement party, and a wedding where I had to bring a gift to each!

Post # 10
1828 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It changes depending on area and culture. I have always given at both but the shower gifts were very small. Also in this area it is not uncommon to have a lot of people at a shower that are not invited to the wedding. The two do not go hand in hand like they do in other places. I guess what I’m saying is that nothing is ‘weird’ just different!

Post # 11
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Terryal87:  I guess it all depends on area. In my area you give a gift for the shower, usually smaller than the wedding gift. The price depends on how well you know the person. Like for my coworkers I got around a $50 gift and for close friends/family like $100 and up (more if you are in the bridal party). For the wedding usually around $250 or $300 for myself and my fiancé. 


ETA: wedding gifts are cash/check, shower gifts are an actual gift, and if I don’t attend the wedding usually i give $50 which is custom in thIs area. 

Post # 12
5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Oh my yes, a gift at both AND on time please…it gets a little frustrating at times, if the registry is the stuff of the Vanderbilts…but I find that most brides to be are more than accomidating with ranges of prices and most appreciative of any gift.

Post # 13
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

In my circle, it is normal to gift a less expensive (preferably decorative/frivolous) gift off the registry for a shower and then to gift a nicer, pricier gift or a larger sum of cash for the wedding. It’s a tossup whether to send a gift or not if you decline to attend the shower, but for sure, if you attend, you bring a gift. For a recent Destination Wedding we attended, I gifted a $70 picture frame for the shower and then $200 from the honeymoon registry for the wedding itself.

It’s also a tossup whether to send a gift if you don’t attend the wedding. We always send a gift and it varies depending on our relationship with the couple. Typically, we try to spend about 1/2 of what we would’ve gifted had we attended the wedding. About 1/2 of our declines sent gifts/cash.

Post # 14
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I bought my cousin two showers gifts(two differnt showers), and plan on doing a cash gift for the wedding. I will do the same for my other cousin next year and if my brother’s Fiance has a shower, same for her. Tis the norm here.

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