(Closed) Shower AND Wedding Gift?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: If you've gifted at a couple's shower, do you gift again at the wedding?
    Yes, I gift for both the shower and wedding. : (148 votes)
    86 %
    No, I gift at the shower only, if invited to both. : (13 votes)
    8 %
    No, I gift at the wedding only, if invited to both. : (3 votes)
    2 %
    It depends on... (insert qualifier in post) : (8 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 4
    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @OldMrsMcDonald:  I think you should gift for both.

    Eta: I’ve never been to both shower and wedding without gifting at both, nor have any married friends I know only received gifts at the shower.  People typically gift at both with cash in a card at the wedding.

    Post # 5
    2958 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    I would give a gift at both…I think his idea of cash or a gift card is good.

    Post # 6
    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @OldMrsMcDonald:  Absolutely get them a gift for the wedding also. Personally, I usually get a few registry items for the shower and give cash for the wedding.

    Post # 7
    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I always gift for both. Something smaller for the shower and then a bigger gift for the wedding.

    Post # 8
    336 posts
    Helper bee

    If I’m invited to the shower, I give both a shower gift and a wedding gift.


    Post # 9
    2023 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I have heard that you give a gift for each event you are invited to.  So shower and wedding.  But I think it is all a personal choice since gifts are technically optional anyway!

    Post # 10
    8610 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I always gift for both.

    Post # 11
    7387 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I used to be under the impression that a gift for the shower, was still a “wedding gift” only to find out on the Bee, in some circles they aren’t considered one in the same.  I guess it depends on your circle. Unless your a close freinds I’m not gifting twice.

    Generally I don’t care for showers and usually decline.


    Post # 12
    8827 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i would gift at both.  i usually buy something in the lesser price range for the shower and give more at the wedding.

    $30-50 shower and $100-150 wedding

    Post # 13
    147 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    From MY experiences and what I have learned throughout life, you gift at both.  If you have a certain ‘gift budget’ (ie, we can only spend $100 on gifts for them), then you should split that up between shower and wedding gifts. 

    If you REALLY decide not to give something at the wedding, then PLEASE at least give them a card!  Afterall, they are inviting you to a special party in their honor.

    Post # 14
    2968 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i think this is a regional/generational thing. around here (at least with my family)  the older generation considers the shower gift to also be the wedding gift, while the younger guests give gifts at both.

    i would probably give a gift for both.

    Post # 15
    3101 posts
    Sugar bee

    @OldMrsMcDonald:  I give a gift at both.  I was very surprised at how many people came to the wedding without a gift.  Even something small is fine!

    Post # 16
    3276 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    The norm in my area is registry gift for the shower, cash for the wedding. I always gift for both no matter who it’s for

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