Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor
I don’t know if it’s just me but… everyone staring at me while I opened gifts was a created a bit of anxiety for me! I felt nervous, as in was I opening the presents too fast? too slow? am I saying the right thing? making the right expression?
I’m usually an attention hog so I was really surprised I felt this way! It was so amazing to be surrounded by such wonderful and loving family and friends, but I was seriously sweating with everyone staring at me. I’m worried I might feel this way during the wedding, walking down the aisle etc. yikes!
Was I the only one or did anyone else feel that way?
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House
I felt the same way! I had a shower last weekend and it was really akward opening presents. I think as long as I focus on the Mr. while I’m making it down the aisle, I’ll be okay. Another plus is that our aisle is short 🙂
Post # 4
I have not had mine yet, but have concerns that I am going to be super awkward…I think it’s only natural if you aren’t used to being the center of attention!
Post # 5
I felt that way for my shower. I thought it was different for the wedding, because, a wedding has more exciting moments. And you won’t be alone in the spotlight.
It can be kind of boring to sit there and watch someone open presents for an hour. And when the most thrilling part is to hear how well you said, "Ooh that will go well in my kitchen," or "What soft towels," it sure can be unnerving.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor
Thank goodness, I really thought it was only me! I mean, the last time everyone stared at me while I opened gifts I was probably at my 10th birthday party…it’s been awhile. 🙂
I tried to say what was really exciting about each gift, and since we got several that MrD was excited about it was easier. As in, "oh! Mr.D is obsessed with this flatwear! He wasn’t too into picking a china pattern, but he was very excited about flatwear and crystal. He’ll be so happy when I let him know!"
Post # 7
OMG, I felt the same way. Usually, I don’t have a problem with being the center of attention (as a teacher, I’m used to all eyes on me!) but I felt so weird about opening my presents. Was I taking too long? Being boring? Not thanking people enough? I especially felt strange at the shower that my Mother-In-Law threw for me, because I didn’t know any of the people. So I’d open a card and then say "oh, this is from Mary" and then I would have to scan the crowd, hoping Mary would identify herself so that I could make eye contact and thank her. It was…awkward. FWIW, I think this was the single thing I felt the weirdest about during the whole process.
I was also worried that I would feel like this on the wedding day, but I didn’t, actually. When I was walking down the aisle, I was so excited that I didn’t feel nervous. It sounds cheesy, but when I saw my husband up there and held onto his hand, I didn’t care that all the other people were there!
Post # 8
I was shocked at the amount of anxiety I felt at my shower. It was really nerve-wracking to remember all the names of people and make sure that everyone felt good about the day…
BUT, I had put all that pressure on myself. Everything would have been just fine if I relaxed. The shower was beautiful and went off without a hitch. For the wedding, I’m going to have a beta-blocker on hand (just in case!)
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2009 - The 19th Century Club
I’m totally anxious about my shower…I’m really glad that I’m only having one, and it will be small! I was kind of hoping that Mr. S would want to be there and it could be a couples shower, taking the pressure off of me, but he didn’t seem that interested in going, and my sister thought it was strange that I’d even consider having him there.
I have a girlfriend who recently had 5 showers…I was there for the 5th one and you would have thought it was the first! She was able to make it seem like she was SO excited about getting towels 😉 I dont’ know how she did it, but I’m trying to use her as inspiration so that I can be as excited as possible when opening everything!
Since I generally hate attention, I figure this will be good practice before the big day.
Post # 10
Try to remember that a bridal shower is about showering you not only with gifts but with the kindness and the love of friends and family. Get back into that childlike birthday party mentality if it helps and just go with the flow. Breathe deep and remember that the memories made from each one of these parties and events are the true gifts.
Wishing you joy and peace for your big day and beyond…
Post # 11
I think Balanced Bride said it PERFECTLY!
Just go back and think of that favorite birthday party or opening that one favorite gift at holiday time! Realize everybody isn’t really staring at you, they’re CELEBRATING WITH you of your joyous new beginning!
Much love to you!
Post # 12
I haven’t had a shower yet and I already feel anxious about it!!
Post # 13
At my friend’s baby shower, she passed the gifts around and asked everyone to open one. This was a lot of fun, because people had fun opening the presents. I thought it was a really good idea, because it doesn’t put all the attention on one person, and it keeps people more involved.
Post # 14
I totally know how you feel! I was shaking a bit because I was so nervous with everyone watching me and with my shower only 1 week before the wedding I was very terrified of what the wedding day would be like. I just kep thinking what the heck have I gotten myself into?! I really wanted to cancel everything and just elope at that point. But honestly, my wedding day was NOTHING like that. I was so focused on my husband and it was like we were in our own little world while saying our vows and doing the first dance and everything. Just relax, your wedding day will be wonderful!
Post # 15
My shower is this coming weekend. I’m looking forward to it but I am a very expressive person so I hope people bought nice gifts! Otherwise, it will eb very difficult to mask… I have to get my frozen smile together… "oh how…er….nice"
Post # 16
I had a surprise shower this past weekend and I was sweating bullets while opening gifts! Everyone was looking at me! (PS it was NOT in any way hot on Cape Cod this weekend). All the guests were like "brr it’s chilly" I’m like "Can someone open a window and get me a cold margarita!!"