(Closed) Shower Etiquette

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hehe, I was totally ready to jump in with the story about the lady at my gym who shaves her bikini line in the group shower… BAD SHOWER ETIQUETTE!

But onto what you were actually asking… I think people probably just aren’t in the frame of mind to be thinking about a shower for a May wedding in December.  I think for my shower, I had it in June, and nobody even started thinking about it until maybe March-ish.  If you really want to have it in December, I think you’ll have to be the one driving the bus, and ask your Maid/Matron of Honor or an auntie or something to host it.

Otherwise, I’d look to whatever, maybe smaller, shower you can have hosted for you in March or April.

ETA – I had my wedding in my current hometown, and my bridesmaids and mom all came to me from 5 hours away.  The reason they may not be thinking about the Christmas shower, is they may be willing to make a special trip closer to the date 🙂


Post # 4
20 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

Have you thought about having your shower a day or two before the wedding?  The distance of everyone in your situation seems to reslemble mine… I’ve mauled this over time and time again and the only clear solution that I’ve come up with is holding the bridal shower/bachlorette party (on the same day) the Thursday before my Saturday wedding.  I figure most people like to take long weekends. 🙂

It may not be for everyone – but it’s an idea. 😀

Post # 5
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

i understand how you feel and i dont think there is anything wrong with it. i just moved away and am going home for xmas where my family and friends are. and my wedding is in April.  my shower will be the day after xmas…thing is, with my family and friends, we have no “etiquette”.  i told my sister, who is my Maid/Matron of Honor, what day and time i want my shower to be!! and she is organizing it from there, LOL.   this is just after her baby shower where she had sent me a list of things she wanted to happen at her baby shower and what day and time she wanted it, LOL.  

from what you told me about your mom’s inconsistency and your Maid/Matron of Honor being wishy washy, i am tempted to think there might be a SURPRISE for you when you go home. that won’t happen for me because i made it clear that i didn’t want a surprise, so i can be sure to be wearing what i wanted to wear to my bridal shower, LOL.  that’s just how it is in my family i guess. we don;t get offended and follow rues, we just know we are going to do it for each other.

you know your friends and family best, and if they are really your good friends and supportive family, why would they care. you only get married once and as long as you don’t expect something extravagant that will costs lots of money. just tell your Maid/Matron of Honor how you think it would be good time!  if they are surprising you though, it might be tricky, as you don;’t want to ruin it….

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