(Closed) Shower Etiquette

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Kitt0nMitt0ns:  Hmm… that’s a bit strange that you are being invited to two showers. If it were me, I’d decline the second shower and only attend the wedding with a gift.

Sounds very gift grabby.

Post # 4
5229 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Technically, yes, but you don’t have to go all out. You already bought her a shower gift. If you want to go to the other shower, get something small. Like two washcloths or something. Set a budget for what you want the gifts for that couple to come to at the end, and then spend appropriately.

Post # 5
4835 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You’ll need to bring a gift to each event.  If you don’t feel comfrotable with this, just decline the 2nd shower invite.  

Alternatively, you could bring a less expensive gift to the 2nd shower, or reduce the ammount that you were goign to give as a wedding gift to accommodate.  

Post # 6
5229 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@Artificial-Sweetener:  It may be gift grabby, but also it may be that the hostesses are setting the guest list, not the bride, or that the bride doesn’t want to slight anyone by not inviting them to the girls-only shower.

Post # 7
1737 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Yeah but I would just bring a plant (or something else cheaper) to the second one,or skip it,  then the wedding gift.


Post # 8
7380 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Sometimes circles cross and someone is invited to more than one shower, especially bridesmaids.  When that happened I would just thank them at the 2nd shower for the gift they gave at the 1st, it’s typical to only gift at one shower, or to bring something small to a second one.  Where I am, usually shower gifts are less expensive and the main gift is given at the wedding.

Post # 9
521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens

Perhaps just give her a nice card at the second shower? That’s what I’ve done when we have multiple birthday celebrations for one person . . .

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