- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
I originally didn’t think I would have a shower since we are having a small destination wedding, but my mom really wants to throw one! Now we need some help on deciding the best time to have it.
We are having a small destination wedding with only close family and friends, and an at home reception more than 6 months later. Most of the people who would be invited to the shower will be invited to the at home reception but not the destination wedding.
One option is to have the shower before the destination wedding (probably about a year before the at home reception). Is it ok to invite people to a shower when they’re not invited to the wedding (but will definitely be invited to the reception the next year)? I think that’s usually considered bad etiquette, but am not sure how it applies when there are 2 receptions.
My mom suggested a second option, holding the shower closer to the date of the at home reception. However, it feels a little awkward to me to have a "bridal shower" when we’re already married (it’s no secret that we’re having the destination wedding) and I don’t want it to seem like we’re just trying to get a lot of gifts from people.