(Closed) Shower Etiquette Question

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You should ask the Mother of the Bride if she would like to be included on the invite as it is usually an etiquette no-no to have the immediate family hosting the bridal shower. I know a lot of MOB that have financially contributed to the bridal shower but keep their name off of the actual invite. But since she is paying you must ask and abide by her choice.

You should most definitely include the bridesmaids as hostesses.

Yes you can include the registry info regardless if the MOB is hosting or not.




Post # 4
2640 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with Laural.  If you do decide to ask her, try to make it sound really up beat.  Like, "You are so generous to pay for the food.  We wanted to make sure you were recognized as a hostess on the invitations, if that’s OK?…."  If she knows etiquette she’ll, kindly decline.

If she doesn’t know shower etiquette and you use that time to offere it to her (ie.  "Just wanted to know if you want to be listed as a host.  I know it can be a bit awkward since mom’s aren’t supposed to host…"), she might feel uneasy.  Maybe she wanted to be listed, but now feels like she shouldn’t.

Post # 5
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I agree with Laural; you should ask the MOB if she wants to be included on the invite and abide by her choice. Definitely do include the bridesmaids as co-hosts along with yourself. It is okay to include registry information on the shower invites, as this is a party to which you are generally expected to bring presents.

My mom financed my shower but it said the party was hosted by my bridesmaids (who were my sisters). So it was not a big secret that my immediate family was throwing me a shower and I don’t think anyone felt turned off by that!


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