(Closed) Shower Etiquette, sheesh

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Can I have the shower my aunts are throwing me at my FMIL's house?
    Yes, no one will notice or care. : (47 votes)
    96 %
    No, it will look like a big fat present grab. : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Something different - I'll post my idea below! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1227 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Eh? A present grab? I don’t understand what that means.

    I didn’t know it was a breach of etiquette to have your aunts give your shower. For me personally it’s not, and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that or with having it in a location that is big enough for your guests to feel comfortable!

    Post # 4
    Member
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

    I think it depends on your family. No one in my family cares much about etiquette although some of them know wedding etiquette pretty well.

    Post # 5
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    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I am pretty sure it’s the “who” and not the “where” that’s a breach of “proper” etiquette. You should be fine having the shower wherever is convenient.

    Post # 6
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    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Don’t worry about it, nobody will think anything negative, its a wedding shower & a party to celebrate you!

    Plus, I’ve been to several showers that were held at either the bride’s mothers house or their MIL’s house (in both cases the showers were not hosted by these individuals, simple held at their homes due to space.) Either way I wouldn’t of cared 🙂 It’s a party!

    Post # 9
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    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think you are totally fine.  I never understood this.  Regardless of whether it is your mom, your Future Mother-In-Law, your friend or whatever, a wedding shower kind of IS a gift grab, no?  The purpose is to “shower” the bride/couple with gifts.

    Post # 10
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    988 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    The location is irrelevant.  It’s the event in itself that is the gift-grab. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    5761 posts
    Bee Keeper

    It’s really perfectly fine wherever it’s most convenient to have it.

    Post # 12
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    3257 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My aunts are throwing me a shower, as well. In my family, it’s normal to have showers at people’s houses simply because it’s a free gathering place and it’s easy to make food, decorate, etc. I don’t think it looks like a beg for presents AT ALL! 🙂

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