Post # 1
I’ve had numerous debts about bridal shower/ personal shower or whatever they are called. I’m confused on shower gift wise. So from what I thought, and I’m no expert. I always thought the shower gift and wedding gifts are separate. Meaning you bring a shower gift to the shower and then a wedding gift to the wedding or mail it to the Bride and Groom. I recently discussed this with my mom, sister, aunt and cousin. Half of us agree that the shower gift has nothing to do with the wedding gift and the other half explained it to me this way. If it’s a “personal shower” you bring lingerie and if it’s a “bridal shower” you would bring the wedding gift to that and not to the wedding, but that just didn’t sound right to me that you would bring the actual wedding gifts to a bridal shower or any shower at all. I know personally I always buy a shower gift and a wedding gift off their wedding registry if there’s no preset theme or place to go specifically for their bridal shower.
I’m now completely lost on what is proper or right to do? Is the bridal shower gift suppose to be your wedding gift as well. Or should there be a shower gift and wedding gift. Of course that is always up to who comes and what they want to buy I only want to know the correct way it should be done.
Post # 3
I always bring a separate gift for the shower, which I believe is traditional. I’ve also heard that you can bring a gift to the shower and give cash for the wedding, but since I’m sure no couple would open a check and go “oh wow, $50!” I always get a gift, rather than money.
Post # 4
I agree – always a gift for the shower, and then a gift or money for the wedding. I usually give something smaller for the shower…
Post # 5
It is customary to bring a gift to the shower (lingerie, registry items, and such) for the bride to open in efforts to prepare the woman for her life in the kitchen and bedroom… that’s what I read anyways! The shower gift does not replace the wedding gift. Typically, if I can’t attend a wedding I’ll send a gift. However, if I can’t make a shower I may or may not send a gift which is acceptable. Most times if it’s someone I’m close with I will send a gift. Hope this helps!
Post # 6
My understanding has been separate parties = separate presents, and I always give a shower gift and another wedding gift. But I think there are a lot of people who agree with your mom, sister, aunt and/or cousin and only give one gift.
Post # 7
Wow, I’ve never heard of just the one gift thing! They are separate parties! Although among most people I know, it seems more traditional to give a GIFT at the bridal shower (off the registry usually unless it’s a lingerie theme or something) and then MONEY for the wedding, though people give wedding gifts too, money seems more common here.
Post # 8
I think usually you bring a small gift to the shower and then a bigger gift to the wedding. Think dish towels for the shower and place settings for the wedding or something like that. If it is a lingerie shower, then you bring undies to the shower and place settings to the wedding.
Post # 9
I had both happen, either just one gift at the shower or two gifts (one shower & one wedding) or even no gifts, haha!
What I like to do is take the $ amount that I am planning on spending and seperate it into two gifts. I just feel weird showing up empty handed so I always want to bring something!