(Closed) Shower gift etiquette! Need help…need money but dont know how to put it!

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How should I do this?

    Create a house warming theme shower without the registry?

    register at a furniture store and hope to get gift certificates that will help furnish the house?

    have family members quietly spread the word that we need cash?

    have a monetary themed party like the one my aunt went to?

  • Post # 16
    952 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I agree with the PP’s who said to forego the shower.  If you register for smaller things at a Pottery Barn-type store and return them, you will have a problem when these people come to visit and look for their gifts in your house.  Just skip it.

    Post # 17
    3930 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    out of curiosity, what would you register for at a furniture store?  just gift certificates?  if i were attending a shower that only had couches and armchairs and other expensive furniture items on the registry, i’d be put off

    Post # 19
    454 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    we got tons of cash, and i’ve given cash for a wedding gift… but NEVER for a shower gift.. the shower gift to me should be more personal so good luck on getting cash for the shower… i would register because people will probably buy things any way and you might as well get things you want.. we owned our home for over a year before our wedding, but just registered for nicer versions of what we already had, serving dishes, knife set, dyson, wii games, gps… we didn’t register for ANY decorations because people tend to look at what you registered for, and then find something they think is similar(which may not be the case).. so definately register, and be prepared to get some stuff you may or may not need or want

    Post # 21
    1028 posts
    Bumble bee

    Honestly? I think you should register. I know you don’t WANT to, but in this case I don’t see any other way around it.  People are going to give you tangible presents no matter what, don’t you want a say in what they’ll be?  The other option is Great Aunt Edith picking out some 80’s picture frame for you.

    Isn’t there ANYTHING you want to upgrade in your home?  Bed set?  Towels?  Kitchen items?

    Post # 23
    1076 posts
    Bumble bee

    @julieandjaiden: Encore had a double post so she edited it.  If you have a shower, you probably gotta register for some tangible things that people can get you.  How many people are invited?  That will also inform the size of your registry.

    By The Way I know some people register for actual items and gift cards from stores like BB&B.

    Post # 25
    1076 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yeh, but that’s not a tangible registry so it won’t do you any good for the shower.  Do you want to upgrade things in your home?  What about new electronics like TVs and DVDs.  What about washers and dryers?  Groups of people can go in together on big ticket items.

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