Post # 1
Do you give 2 separate gifts for the bridal shower and wedding day? My understanding is you give a smaller, personal gift for the bride only during the shower, like lotions, candles, or items she can use for her wedding like a garter. Then you give a bigger gift for the couple on their wedding day from their registry or cash. However, the last bridal shower I have attended, I saw many guests bringing gift boxes from the store the bride is registered with. I could only assume that they are already handing over the couple’s wedding gift on the day of the bridal shower? Did I get this wrong? What are your thoughts regarding shower VS wedding gifts?
Post # 2
I only know about my family/social circles (east coast USA).
Personal gifts are given at bachelorette events, like lingerie. Gifts from the registry are given at the shower. And almost everyone gives a gift in an envelope, at the wedding (check, cash, gift card).
Post # 3
I’m used to registry gifts being given for showers and more expensive registry gifts or cash being given at the actual wedding.
Post # 5
Additionally: personal items like 2XMOB:
said are typically given at the bach party.
Post # 6
I’ve always used the registry for both, unless there’s something personal I want to give. Why should the bride get a bunch of presents but not the groom? I’d rather give something both can use.
Post # 8
most of the shower gifts i received were off my registry. for the wedding gifts they were also off the registry but bigger ticket items, or cash/check.
Post # 9
Shower gift for me is a registry item, usually between 50-100 dollars. Wedding gift is cash and hubby and I try to make sure we cover our plate.
Post # 10
Where I am from you give items off of the registry for the shower and then give money for the wedding.
Post # 11
In my area its mostly registry gifts for both, maybe $50 – $100 range for shower and $100 – $200 range for wedding. Sometimes a personal gift, date night type gift, monogram gift at shower instead of registry gift. Now that I’m getting older I’m giving more cash for weddings because I recognize I would rather just have cash and most of us have fairly furnished homes.
Post # 12
‘personal gifts’ are typically given at bachelorette parties in my experience.
Post # 13
I received a lot of gifts at my bridal shower. i noticed then some people who gifted at the shower did not give anything at the wedding. However others were really generous at both. i think there is a lot of confusion on gift etiquette.
Post # 14
I agree with you. It’s confusing. Apparently the gifts that I have been giving brides previously for their showers are really for bachelorette parties. I seriously thought that’s what guests give to showers which are personal items FOR THE BRIDE ONLY. For the actual wedding day, I buy an item from their registry store so I bring it with me during the ceremony and place it on the gift table during cocktail hour. Apparently, this is incorrect per popular opinion from the bees here.
In addition, for the most part, my relatives or friends who got married did not have both bridal shower AND bachelorette parties. It is only one or the other with bridal shower as the more popular of the two.
Post # 15
My understand and experience is that shower gifts are small things from the regisrty. Possibily a bowl, wine glasses,etc.
A wedding is for cash or the big ticket items- kitchen aid, vitamix, etc. Or cash