(Closed) shower gift VS wedding gift

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
3080 posts
Sugar bee

I only know about my family/social circles (east coast USA).

Personal gifts are given at bachelorette events, like lingerie. Gifts from the registry are given at the shower. And almost everyone gives a gift in an envelope, at the wedding (check, cash, gift card).

Post # 3
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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socalgirl1689:  I’m used to registry gifts being given for showers and more expensive registry gifts or cash being given at the actual wedding.

Post # 5
1727 posts
Bumble bee

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AndreaM924:   +1!

Additionally: personal items like

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2XMOB: said are typically given at the bach party.

Post # 6
6217 posts
Bee Keeper

I’ve always used the registry for both, unless there’s something personal I want to give.  Why should the bride get a bunch of presents but not the groom?  I’d rather give something both can use.

Post # 8
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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socalgirl1689:  most of the shower gifts i received were off my registry. for the wedding gifts they were also off the registry but bigger ticket items, or cash/check.

Post # 9
2366 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Shower gift for me is a registry item, usually between 50-100 dollars. Wedding gift is cash and hubby and I try to make sure we cover our plate. 

Post # 10
2134 posts
Buzzing bee

Where I am from you give items off of the registry for the shower and then give money for the wedding. 

Post # 11
2067 posts
Buzzing bee

In my area its mostly registry gifts for both, maybe $50 – $100 range for shower and $100 – $200 range for wedding.  Sometimes a personal gift, date night type gift, monogram gift at shower instead of registry gift.  Now that I’m getting older I’m giving more cash for weddings because I recognize I would rather just have cash and most of us have fairly furnished homes. 

Post # 12
552 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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AndreaM924:  +1


‘personal gifts’ are typically given at bachelorette parties in my experience.

Post # 13
11 posts
  • Wedding: October 2015

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socalgirl1689:  I received a lot of gifts at my bridal shower. i noticed then some people who gifted at the shower did not give anything at the wedding. However others were really generous at both. i think there is a lot of confusion on gift etiquette. 

Post # 15
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My understand and experience is that shower gifts are small things from the regisrty. Possibily a bowl, wine glasses,etc. 

A wedding is for cash or the big ticket items- kitchen aid, vitamix, etc. Or cash

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