(Closed) Shower gift? Wedding gift? Does it matter? CONFUSED!

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What should I do?
    Open EVERYTHING they bought at the shower. : (14 votes)
    47 %
    Open only the smaller/less expensive gifts at the shower. : (2 votes)
    7 %
    Ask them which gift is for which occasion, so I can open appropriately. : (14 votes)
    47 %
    Give into the nausea I'll feel from having to open gifts publicly, and withdraw into the bathroom. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 4
    Member
    342 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’d open whatever is brought to the shower. If it is a wedding gift, I’m sure they’ll say something. If you ask its like saying, hey I know what you got me, what do you want to open. And I just don’t get the warm fuzzies from that… I’m sure there will be a “oh no, I didn’t want you to open that – it’s for wedding!” But you never know, they may want to give you these expensive shower gifts and still give you something for the wedding.

    Post # 6
    Member
    450 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Ouch this is a rough one. I would not even know where to start on this. Can you have your mom hint and ask without asking details???

    Post # 7
    Member
    46670 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @lanalnoco:  There’s a sticky at the top of the main Board explaining the paragraph problem. It’s only a problem for the author of the post.

    Post # 8
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    9548 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    First, hope they come with a note – many online orders give you a place to write a little note so hopefully they did this and it will explain things. If not, I would ask them if they would like you to bring everything to the shower to open there. You can play dumb and pretend like you don’t know what’s in them, just that you got this box and want to know what to do with it.

    Post # 10
    Member
    668 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m wondering the same thing. We registered at Amazon so people have been shipping a lot of stuff straight to our house. Super convenient, but I have no idea if it’s meant to be a shower gift (which is this week) or a wedding gift (ie from people who are unable to attend the wedding). I also don’t want to be a slacker and hold off on the thank you cards until AFTER the wedding, but I’d really like to include a wedding photo for those that couldn’t make it.

    >>Is it just me or does it feel kind of greedy to expect a shower gift AND a wedding gift? Is that normal? 

    Post # 11
    Member
    1966 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My sister had all of her luggage shipped to her before her shower. She didn’t bring it to the shower. She just said “I wanna thank xyz for all of our luggage can’t wait until our honeymoon”. I would then send a thank you card for all of it. Another after your wedding for attending etc. 

    Post # 13
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    668 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @lanalnoco:  I just opened everything and sent thank you cards now. If the HAPPEN to send another gift then I’ll send another thank you. But I’m not expecting them to. I feel better knowing that THEY know we received it and are enjoying it.

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