(Closed) Shower Help…

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Should I go with the idea of a shower where people pay for their own food?
    Yes, make them pay! : (2 votes)
    7 %
    No, that isn't fair! : (27 votes)
    93 %
  • Post # 3
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    196 posts
    Blushing bee

    If this is a shower where people are bringing presents, you should definitely be feeding people something.  The bachelorette is where it’s fine to ask people to buy their own food/drinks (and usually for the bride as well), but not a shower.

    Post # 4
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    579 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If people will be bringing gifts i dont think people should be expected to pay for their own food.

    Post # 5
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    939 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Yeah, I find this rude too.   I’m usually not a stickler for rules and stuff, but if I new I was invited to a shower that I had to pay my own meal I wouldn’t go unless it was for a sister, anyone else, No Way! 

    Were they planning on writing it in the invitation? Because what if someone didn’t have enough money on them since they didn’t plan on paying for their own meal.  That would be even worse.  Very embarrassing/awkard situation.

    Post # 6
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    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Did she specifically say that she wanted the guests to pay? I’ve been to quite a few showers that were held at restaurants and the guests were never expected to pay. 

    Regardless, it’s never okay to host a party and not provide food and beverage to your guests. I would be kind of appalled , actually.

    Post # 7
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    116 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    That’s extremely rude. You may as well just ask the guests to plan the shower themselves. If you’re really strapped for cash, can you have it at someone’s home so you don’t have to pay for a venue? Like in the movie Bridesmaids 🙂 [Although I don’t have ANY friends with a home that big]

    Post # 8
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    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @Diana R.: My favorite kind of a shower is an at home shower. There’s so much more freedom to get creative and really do what you want to do rather than follow a venues rules and work within their limitations.

    My bridal shower was at my aunts house and it couldn’t have possibly been any better. My girls went a little crazy but at home showers can certainly be done on a smaller budget.

    ETA: Here’s a link to my bridal shower recap (sorry, I’d make it pretty but I’m on my iPad)…

    In one word… incredible! My “surprise” bridal shower!

    Post # 9
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    116 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @UpstateCait: Wow your bridal shower looked amazing!! You’re so lucky to have such creative and awesome friends.

    Post # 10
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    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @Diana R.: Thanks! Yea, they’re pretty good to me!

    Post # 11
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    37 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I threw my Maid/Matron of Honor her shower with her new cousin a few years ago.  I was in school, and didn’t have much money, so we had it at her aunt’s house, and had a recipe shower.  We asked everyone to bring their favourite recipe and make it so we all could try it.  No one complained, and we had a nice array of food, also, she ended up with a bunch of new recipes Smile.  We sent out fancy recipe cards with the invites so they would all match and gave her a new box for them all.

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