Post # 1
I’m Maid/Matron of Honor in a friend’s wedding, so ordinarily I’d help organize both the shower and the bachelorette party. The issue here: the bride is out of the country until shortly before the wedding.
I (along with 2 other BMs) am putting together a bachelorette party for the bride. None of us live in the same state (as e/o or where the bride will live before the wedding), so it will be basically impossible for people to fly across the country for the bach party, shower and then out of the country for the wedding.
The bride’s family might be holding a small shower for her where she lives, but I thought it might be fun to do some sort of a shower at her bachelorette party as well. The issue is that the party is a flight away from where the bride lives, so she can’t bring a bunch of toasters and towels back from the shower.
My first idea was to have people just ship gifts to her parent’s house, and we’d have the shower but no real presents (just cards saying what was purchased). But…I dunno. I’m not in love with that idea. My second idea was to do a theme shower where the gifts would be small and easily packed or shipped. My only idea, however, was to have a lingerie theme, and I can’t really see the bride being into that.
Any other ideas for a theme where the gifts would be small and transportable? Or any other ideas in general? Unfortunately, due to time and location limitations, the bachelorette party is the only time the bride, BMs and other friends will be able to get 2/g before the wedding.
Post # 3
@Amani: Could you do a gift card party? Maybe if you wrote on the invite because of her travel/distance problems, you’re doing a card party. Or maybe if she did a honeymoon registry people could get her and Fiance spa treatments, beach rentals, etc rather than gifts? Or ask that if they really want to give a gift, they be travel size (like an airplane kit of magazines, gum, crosswords, etc). I know when my best friend got married, I was really careful to keep in mind that she needed to fly everything home as she lived across the country. As a joke you could get her a suitcase to put everything in! LOL!
Post # 4
This will be my problem.
Is she registered at Macy’s? Macy’s will allow you to bring the items back, “return them”, and then buy them again (will have to pay tax though) and they will ship them for free to her locale. My Future Sister-In-Law was able to do this so.
Post # 5
I’ve heard of gift card parties and then the bride takes pictures of what she purchases with the gift card and sends it in her thank you!
Post # 6
I like the theme party – you could have everyone bring a recipee or a bottle of wine. You could also incorporate that into the gifts that people ship. That way she’d have something to open and do!
Post # 7
Or, you could ask the guests to bring a card to the shower but have the gifts delivered to the bride’s family .
They could also print out pictures of the gift to include with their card.
Or they could send you a link to a picture of the gift.You could collect them in a folder for the bride to open one at a time.
The bride’s Mom can SKYPE into the shower, open the gifts and show them to the bachelorette party guests online.
Post # 8
Thanks for the ideas! I’ll pass them along to the other BMs.
@bakerella: Love the suitcase idea. You’re too funny 🙂
Post # 9
I like hte skype idea, I think that could be fun (maybe even have everyone bring a clue about their gift for her to open and make like a little game of it, then have mom reveal what the “real” presents are?