(Closed) Shower Help?

posted 12 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2007

Mooo!  I’d have to be a cow and ask about it.  Since her daughter is your Maid/Matron of Honor – bring it up to her if you don’t want to bring it up to Future Mother-In-Law, and say that you really would like everyone to be able to come and think they might need extra notice.  If they haven’t purchased invites yet, then they themselves might need a little extra time too – so you may suggest they move the date out a bit.  And to answer your question – 11 days is WAY short notice.  My shower is the 13th of next month and I already have my invitation.  If you want to casually bring it up to them, then you could always call and ask how you should dress, or if they need a hand with anything, which might help present an opportunity to get the dirt on why no one has gotten an invite.  Good Luck – I know you’ve had more than your share of drama with those two.

Post # 4
75 posts
Worker bee

I agree with Melanie. Have they asked you for addresses for the guests? That might be a good way to bring it up, if they haven’t.

Post # 6
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

If the shower has indeed been postponed, therefore giving your guests a little more notice, maybe it wouldn’t be a bad idea to offer your help with the invitations so they don’t go out so late?  Maybe say "oh I’d love to help with invites… how about we get them out tomorrow?" 

Post # 7
13 posts
  • Wedding: January 2008

I would definitely ask in a polite way. I had the same problem. My first shower is Sept. 29th and I think my invites just went out. I was a little worried that people wouldn’t have enough time to plan or enough to shop for gifts. Not that I’m being greedy, but it is inconvenient. Anyway, I asked my Future Sister-In-Law if she needed my Mom’s address to send her an invite and she totatlly understood and apologized for not getting the invites out sooner. Just be nice about it and no one should be offended. Congrats and I hope you have a great shower!

Post # 8
24 posts
  • Wedding: October 2007

Maybe your family can organize a ‘real’ shower for the weekend after this dud shower… Kiwi, I’ve been following your journey since I started reading the bee.  I have to say I’m not really impressed with the obvious passive agressiveness of you Maid/Matron of Honor.  I know it’s family (and blah blah blah), but your Maid/Matron of Honor is stressing me out.  (throwing a fit about the dress color, buying the wrong dress in spite / practically demanding that her in-laws be invited to the wedding / and now dropping the ball on the shower – – what a spoiled brat, I am so sorry)

Post # 9
2 posts

Maybe it’s a surprise and they are telling you this to throw you off?  That’s what I did for my best friend who got married last year and she was totally caught off guard! 

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