Post # 1
I’m going out to get gifts for my bridal shower hosts tonight. Here’s my dilemma. I have six BM’s (incl. my MOH). I know my Maid/Matron of Honor and one of my BMs have done a ton of work for the shower for months! I want to get them a really nice gift BUT I know that they have also asked the other four BMs if they would like to contribute financially towards it.
I don’t know who has or hasn’t or if some are bringing something instead like food. I would like to get a gift for anyone who has contributed whether it be time or money or food, etc.
Without knowing the extend of help, is it okay if I get my Maid/Matron of Honor and the one Bridesmaid or Best Man a bigger gift than the others? I don’t want anyone to be offended. There’s a good chance my Maid/Matron of Honor and the one Bridesmaid or Best Man have put a lot of effort in and money and a couple girls have contributed money, one or two bring some desserts and one hasn’t helped. My Maid/Matron of Honor won’t tell me because she doesn’t want to ruin any surprises 🙁
Please offer your advice, Bees!!
Post # 3
I’m in a similar prediciment. My shower is a “surprise” even though I know when it is. I’m pretty sure my Maid/Matron of Honor and one Bridesmaid or Best Man have done everything with the help of my mom and aunt but my other Bridesmaid or Best Man more than likely hasn’t contributed anything.
My plan is to give them each a “From my shower to yours” gift bag with some B&BW stuff in it and then send my Maid/Matron of Honor and one Bridesmaid or Best Man flowers after the shower. I couldn’t possibly give the two a gift and not give the other Bridesmaid or Best Man something, even if she didn’t contribute, so I figure this will work well considering the other Bridesmaid or Best Man won’t know about the flowers since they’ll be sent after the fact.
Post # 4
@UpstateCait: Thanks for your reply. I was thinking something along those lines too – to give them all the same thing and after the shower give the other two girls something bigger or flowers. I’m glad I’m not the only one!
Post # 6
For the showers that my friends & family hosted, my goal in my hostess gifts were to get something thats practical. I went to the Dollar Store and got little tote bags rather than gift bags. I filled them with some organic fair trade lotion and soap from the natural foods store. (I can’t stand cosmetics with all the fake chemicals and harsh scents!) I also included a small umbrella from the Dollar Store and included a thank you note that said, “here are a few things in case of a shower and to use in your shower.” For another shower that was hosted in my honor, I gave mini bottles of wine with mini wine glasses (rom Pier One) and attached ‘thank you’ charms to the glasses.