(Closed) Shower host gift?

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’ve hosted showers before and gotten nothing.

My Maid/Matron of Honor and her mom hosted my shower and I got them each something.

If your maids are just helping out a bit while the Maid/Matron of Honor and her mom do the bulk of the work (and carry the expense), then I think you just need to get gifts for the Maid/Matron of Honor and her mom.

Also, I think a hostess gift is a wonderful way to show how grateful you are for their hard work and generosity.

Post # 4
278 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think it’s absolutely necessary.  I’ve co-hosted several and didn’t mind that I didn’t get anything.  I think it comes with being a bm or moh, actually.  I simple heart-felt thank you is more than enough.

I do think it can be a nice gesture, especially when someone aside of your bridal party is helping.  If you’re giving gifts, perhaps a bigger gift for your moh and her mom and smaller gifts for the rest of the bms if they helped.

Post # 5
225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Hostess gifts are always a sweet gesture, but not necessary. 

Post # 6
3331 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think it’s necessary, but I’m sure always appreciated.  I’ve hosted showers and not gotten anything before.  I am getting a small gift for my sister (MOH) and my aunt who are hosting my shower.  My aunt is having the shower at her house, so I thought a little something (probably just a BBW basket) would be nice.

Post # 8
948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

My Ohio shower is this weekend & my aunt and cousin are hosting.  I put together a little goody bag filled with flip flops, lotions, bodywash, candles, lip balm, etc. in coordinating colors with our wedding.  I am also going to throw in a pashmina as well.  It’s something small for all of the hard work they are doing 🙂

Post # 9
813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Although maybe not necessary, I think that shower gifts are a GREAT idea. A lot of planning goes into a shower. They plan for weeks in advance, buy everything, open up their home, etc etc. They set up long before you get there, and clean up after you’ve left. People are usually very generous with the shower, and you will leave with lots of gifts. So it would be nice to get the hostesses a little gift of their own to show your appreciation. 

I think you should take a gift to your MOH’s mom since she is having the party at her house (afterall, you would take a bottle of wine or a cheese plate if she was inviting you over to dinner), and then something for you Maid/Matron of Honor as well.

I would also ask your Maid/Matron of Honor outright if the other BMs are helping– if they are chipping in with small things, then maybe just give them a small gift (like a notepad with their initial) and then get your Maid/Matron of Honor something a little nicer.


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