(Closed) shower host???

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
13014 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly, I think you’re making too big a deal of this.  The parents of the bride and groom graciously stepped in to help out with the hosting duties since you are, like you said, thousands of miles away.  Maybe they thought you weren’t going to actually host the shower?  And to be perfectly honest, by saying you would contribute roughly $100, including invitations and “some items” for the shower, it doesn’t sound like you were planning on hosting in the first place. 

You should thank the mothers of the bride and groom for their offering to host the shower and offer to help with whatever they need you for.  Maybe you can show them your ideas for invitiations and other things you had already thought of. 

Had you actually made any solid plans for the shower before this happened?  Had those plans been communicated to the bride and her mother/groom’s mother? 

I think stepping back and not offering to contribute at all makes you look petty, so I’d advise against shutting them out completely. Being a Maid/Matron of Honor isn’t a position for glory, it’s to support the bride. 

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