(Closed) Shower hostess gift etiquette?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wrote a post about this awhile ago and got some good feeback. If you go to my profile, you will be able to find it.

My shower is this weekend and I just went to the store last night. My best friend/bm, her mom and another family friend are hosting. I bought them some fun colored pasta from World Market and truffle dipping oil (seriously, this stuff is awesome!). My family (and FI’s too) are very Italian and I figured this was a unique gift. I didn’t want to get them something that would just end up in a closet somewhere. I hope they like it!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh, and I spent about $8 a piece

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think that getting a host/hostess gift is generally good etiquette (bridal shower or not).  Like when you bring flowers or wine to a dinner party.  I think something small like LittleBear described is probably fine, though.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree. I think something small is generally a nice way to thank the hosts. I’ve seen a Bee or two on here talk about what they gave out: I remember one who talked about giving "shower" themed gifts (ie, soaps, scrubs, etc.). 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

The Bed, Bath, and Beyond near me is have a buy three, get three free sale.  I bought 2 bath gels, 2 lotions, and 2 body mists (about $30), and then both of my hostesses got a little bath set (get it? shower gifts for a shower?  tehehehe!).  I also stayed after everyone else had left to help clean up.  Once all the presents were in my car, I grabbed their gift bags from the front seat for them.  They opened their gifts right then.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I also wrote a post asking about this before my shower!

From the boards, I was told it was proper ettiquette to give the hostesses a gift. I got my Maid/Matron of Honor some MAC make-up in a little make-up bag and wrote in her card that I would pay for her make-up to be professionally done on the wedding day. I got her mom a $40 gift card for her nail salon she goes to frequently. I know it isn’t necessary to spend so much, but they really put together a beautiful shower and I know it took a lot of time, effort, and money.

Oh, I also got my Bridesmaid or Best Man who did the desserts a stationery set with a pen, stickys, notecards, and envelopes.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

I would get something for the mom, too, since she is helping.  Like the others said, it can be any little token of thanks.  I gave the gifts to my hostesses at the end of the shower, after the guests had left.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I had my surprise shower over the weekend and it was truly wonderful. My Maid/Matron of Honor hosted it at her mom’s lovely house so we sent her one of those fruit bouquets. The shower was actually thrown by all of my bridesmaids and we are scattered all over so I bought my Maid/Matron of Honor $40 gift card to her favorite store and the rest of them $20. I know it may be a bit more than other people spend but I wanted to show my appreciation and since I am mailing all over the country it seems cheap to give them a $10 gift card with all they did.

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