(Closed) shower hostess gift etiquette

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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11 posts
Newbee

I think a hostess gift would be nice, but not always necessary. 🙂

I’ve been to showers where the hostess there was given a nice photo frame, something they collect, something small, but nice for their home.

Post # 4
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236 posts
Helper bee

I have to admit that I have never been to a bridal or baby shower where the hostess received a gift from the bride.  This may be due in part to the fact that almost all of these showers were a surprise.

Isntead of a hostess gift you could do a thank you gift.  I would provide one for everyone who planned the shower and for your aunt as well because she is offerign up her home for the occasion (all that cleaning before and after the party deserves something).

Post # 6
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55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I am getting my three bridesmaids and the family friend who is hosting the shower bath & body products from my favorite etsy seller, SpaTherapyWorks. Something that’s a little different, and from my experience you can never have too much lotion!

Post # 7
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109 posts
Blushing bee

haha i agree – lotion is great – i like trying different ones and seeing which kinds i like anyways. good idea! let us know what happens piperbenjamin.

Post # 8
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388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

It sounds like you are trying to be a good traditional bride by not being involved with the shower plans.  I think it’s perfectly fine to ask your Maid/Matron of Honor who is helping with the shower planning so you can make sure you appropriately thank those who’ve contributed to your shower, whether it’s monetary assistance or spending time working on it.

Since the focus of the shower is you and there’s a lot going on, I’d send the gifts afterwards as a thank you.  If you want to make a more public show of gratitude, and are planning on opening up your shower gifts in front of everyone, maybe you can say a few words thanking everyone for coming.  Then you can acknowledge those who did a great job in hosting your shower and give them their gifts before you open yours.

Members of the bridal party & family spend a lot of time and money when they’re in a wedding.  Surely, they’ll be spending $$ on your shower, so any token of thanks is always gracious and really appreciated.

Post # 9
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105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

I bought my hostesses – eye masks from banana republic but I love the idea of shower gel and an umbrella,

"Thank you for the shower, here is for your next shower"

Post # 10
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438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

My Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaid planned my shower and paid for most of it.  I got them each a Lolita wine glass and a bottle of wine.

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2014

erika426:  This is so cute! I’m going to do that with a pack of flower seeds and a mini watering can!

Post # 11
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1697 posts
Bumble bee

Hostess gifts should always be something small (so that there is no suggestion that you are attempting to “pay off” your hostess for her kindness) and should be given discretely (so even if you have never seen them given, that doesn’t mean it didn’t happen.) The best taste is to send the gift either on the same day before the party, or on the next day. Flowers, candies, fruit or wine are best sent ahead of time since then the hostess can use them for entertaining, or not, as she wishes. Gifts sent the next day should accompany your obligatory note of thanks to the hostess for her hospitality.

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