(Closed) Shower hostess is being too pushy with guests!

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@Valerita:  It sounds like like lady is using your wedding as an excuse to make money. She hosts the shower and gets guests to buy things from thus making her money. Somewhat tacky in my personal opinion.

I have never had someone try to use a special event in my life to make money off of and I hope I never do.

🙁

Post # 4
Member
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

My SO’s aunt is a Pampered Chef host/person and I could never imagine her saying anything like this. This lady is obviously pretty desperate for some sales. If you’re uncomfortable with her now, I can’t imagine it being any easier when she’s actually there with all of you. If I were you, and since you don’t know her very well, I may just cancel the entire thing unless there are some PC items that you REALLY want.

Post # 6
Member
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Valerita:  YES THIS WOMAN IS TRYING TO MAKE MONEY OFF OF YOU.  She literally makes a cut of every single thing people buy ‘for you’.  I don’t doubt that she likes you and supports your wedding but this is nothing more than a sales pitch.  I wouldn’t call this a shower at all.  I would call this  Pampered Chef party.  It’s a shame you can’t cancel because I sure as hell would.  Sorry this is so awkward for you 🙁

Post # 7
Member
275 posts
Helper bee

YES! She’s making money off of you. Disgusting! You know what she’ll do while your guests are there? She’ll pressure them to throw a party for their friends. It’s such a scheme. I would personally contact everyone who was invited and cancel it. 

Post # 8
Member
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow.  Honestly, if I were you I’d try to get out of this party, or at least nix the Pampered Chef thing.  Pampered Chef party hostesses are guaranteed deep discounts on items for themselves and the more others purchase, the more the hostesses get in discounts and free products.

Post # 9
Member
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Oh yes. We do really think that. That’s exactly how those work, that’s why the person sells the products.

I would probably tell her something along the lines of deciding to go a more traditional shower route rather than a buy-on-site plan. I can only imagine people feeling very uncomfortable buying a gift while you’re still in the area, even if she decides to take people into a different room to order. And what happens if they decide they don’t like anything from there? They’d feel terrible not getting you anything on the spot. I would just call or email your guests and let them know you’ve dropped the PC idea, if that’s what you decide to do.

Post # 11
Member
6823 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

This is why last year I did not have a Pampered Chef bridal shower!  A Girlfriend who I am no longer friends with (differ story on that). She knows someone who sells that stuff and had a party last year and asked if I wanted to do that kind of bridal shower (she would have hosted it with her friend doing the actual party)  My Maid/Matron of Honor also had asked if I wanted a Pampered Chef party..

I had replied to both of them, I thought it would not be a good idea because then people feel pressured to buy purchases from them. 

Post # 12
Member
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

They can be fun as long as they’re not attached to anything specific (i.e., a bridal shower) and when you have an awesome hostess. The great ones don’t pressure anyone and definitely don’t make anyone feel guilty for not wanting any of their stuff.

Post # 14
Member
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Valerita:  You could always call people and let them know that they should feel no pressure to buy items at the shower. Tell them to think of it more as an engagement party or a reason to sit around and talk about the wedding.

So sorry your friend is taking advantage of you. I would be pissed.

Post # 15
Member
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

You can always cancel her and just have everyone over for finger foods or something. It doesn’t have to be anything huge. If you cancel with her you can always ask for a couple catalogs to take with in case anyone really did want something. So she’ll still get any sales people we’re really steadfast on.

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