Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor just sent out a mass email to everyone to invite them to my bridal shower. Although I thought she was going to send out actual inviations through the mail, I just let it go. Now I’m finding out though that people just thought that email was a “save the date” type thing, and have deleted it! Do you think a mass email to invite people is ok, or should I find a way to ask her to mail invites? Advice is appreciated 🙂
Post # 3
Please mail paper invites! Email invites are so confusing. Are they a save the date? Just an FYI? Requesting and address? or and Invitation?
My friend is having a baby shower, being thrown by her mom and she sent out a massive email. We are not sure if it was an invite or just an FYI. A couple of our friends sent their addresses thinking that paper invited would later follow but we have yet to receive anything. The shower is in a couple weeks and I haven’t received an actual invite so maybe I was taken off the list or the details changes, etc. I know it’s not a bridal shower but this is why I say paper invites are a must.
Post # 4
I never know what to think about email invites either. I wonder if I was forgoten about and they ran out of invites so just sent me an email or if they are gift grubbers who sent out emails because they are inviting everyone they know so that they can get more gifts.
I never attend a shower if I only received an email invite.
Post # 5
I just got a shower invite via evite the other day, and saw no problem with it. Actually, it was kind of nice, because I can see who else is going, so I can find someone with whom to carpool!
Post # 6
Backyard BBQ at the neigbor’s house = Evite invite
Formal event w/a gift registry = send out paper invites
Since you are expecting gifts the effort should be made to send out formal invitations. I personally get so many mass invites from different groups that half the time I don’t open it unless I know exactly what it is for. Save the confusion, especially for older guests, and mail the invites.
Post # 7
How should I go about asking my Maid/Matron of Honor to do this? I don’t think she sees anything wrong with an email invite.
Post # 8
I think it’s ok for a Bachelorette Party to do invitations through e-mail, but a wedding shower invites should be mailed out. Just tell your Maid/Matron of Honor that some family and friends are under the assumption that the email was a STD. Maybe you guys could go look at invitations and that could be a suttle hint?
Post # 9
I pretty much never attend anything that I get an email or Facebook message about. It doesn’t make you feel like they really want you there. If she’s ReALLY against paper invites, at least tell her to make personal phone calls.
Post # 10
Personally I like receiving mail invites for things like showers .. just feels so much nicer, plus I also think the calling to RSVP gives a better representation / guest count versus an evite. I use evites though for house parties and such.