(Closed) Shower Invites…Who is included??

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@stranger1: I don’t know the etiquette rules on this one, but I think it should be whatever you are comfortable with (sorry, not much help). I think it depends on the size of your guest list. 

MY Maid/Matron of Honor wanted to invite all women from my guest list, but my guest list is 300 people so, hosting a shower for about 150 would not be easy for her. 

My experience with showers have been small, intimate experiences (especially when friends gift lingerie). So my shower list is about 20 women: women family members that live close by, college and grad school friends that live near and far, and my Future Mother-In-Law (which is symbolic b/c she lives on the other side of the country and I don’t expect her to travel for 2 events). I’m not inviting other future in-laws that live half way around the country. 

I do think it was a nice gesture for you to invite your Future In-Laws though. For me and my list size, that was just not an option and it’s okay. Your fiance shouldn’t worry too much, if people feel “awkward” about coming, they won’t attend. And he’s not planning it nor attending, so he should be fine.

Post # 4
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think you were very kind to invite everyone and I believe that is traditional if they all live nearby.  They aren’t obligated to give you gifts if they don’t come so I see no awkwardness. 

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