(Closed) Shower is tomorrow…no one is coming so far except my bridal party..

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

That sucks.  I am so excited for my shower but I am trying not to have any expectations at all.  Just hoping for the best and planning for the worse.

Post # 34
2216 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had only 1 friend show up for my bridal shower.  It stung, but I was surrounded by 25ish family members.  I even had a “friend” tell me 4 days before that she was coming, and never showed up or called. Worse things can happen I guess.

Post # 35
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i had a similar experience, and definitely cried about it.  a lot.  i understand it’s not about the gifts, and some people just don’t get how much it hurts when you skip out on something so important.  i wouldn’t let it ruin any of your best friendships, but i also wouldn’t act like everything was fine towards those that didn’t show for no reason.  i’m sure your next shower will be amazing, and be sure to thank those that did show up!!!!  now you know who you can count on.  feel better and don’t let it get to you, this is a happy time in your life and you want to focus on the good instead of the bad!  love!

Post # 37
1866 posts
Buzzing bee

@fresitachulita:  Sweetie I am sorry that you were bummed by the small number of ladies who attended your shower. 🙁  It does really suck – I can relate b/c none of my relatives came except for my mom, sisters and 1 grandma.  Some of the other relatives (cousins, aunts) did not even RSVP and my Maid/Matron of Honor had to call and email them multiple times.  It sucks, but in the end you just have to be grateful for the people who did show up and who do support you.  🙂

Post # 38
1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@fresitachulita:  Awww….I’m really sorry this happened.

Did people really just not RSVP at all???  I mean, I get being bummed people couldn’t make it (they don’t even have to give you a reason), but to just not respond at all is a seriously DICK move.  I don’t get people.  It’s just so inconsiderate.

I’m glad that you’re not going to say anything to your MOH/BP.  I’m sure that they were just gutted considering all the work they put in to making it beautiful for you.  I know that I would feel super pissed off if I threw a party like that and no one bothered to RSVP.  Crazypants, I calls it.

Post # 39
1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@fresitachulita:  haha that’s the spirit! i am so sorry that some of your friends blew off your shower :/ i am also sorry that your mom was being devil’s advocate about the whole thing! there is nothing more maddening than when you want to be angry about something and someone keeps making excuses for it! your brother’s Girlfriend should have been there unless she had a major reason not to be!!

Post # 41
1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@fresitachulita:  WOW.

I get it.  You’re being a lot more calm/rational then I would be.  

I know that brides are supposed to be all zen about people just not caring as much about our weddings, but it’s hard not to be really hurt when people pull that kind of BS.  I WOULD be angry and I would also be upset at your mom… maybe she was just trying to get you to calm down so you could enjoy the shower?  

And yeah, of course you’re not upset about gifts; there’s a lack of care demonstrated here that just blows.  

Anyway, this is all to validate your feelings.  Vent away, my friend.  I’d be saying a lot to myself about the “friends” who just didn’t bother to RSVP.  That really just blows my mind.  SOOOOOO RUDE.

Post # 42
5092 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m so sorry. I know I would have been just as hurt as you were, so I hope this doesn’t come across as scolding, because I TOTALLY don’t mean it that way…

It is so wonderful that your Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs stepped up and made it a beautiful shower. These are friends that you know you will be able to count on down the line.

Post # 44
8882 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

My mind is also blown, how incredibly rude of those people?! I’m sorry this happened.  But I am glad that you did enjoy a great time with your friends who did attend.

Post # 45
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m so sorry:( I know how awful it feels. I had two showers, one for each family, and only 3-4 people showed up to each. I felt and still feel like nobody cared about me, but you’re right…fewer thank you notes! Your next shower will be amazing:) It sounds like you have some amazing friends that love you and that’s all that matters.

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