Post # 1
My FH’s family had a shower for me last weekend while he was out of town @ his bachelor party. They had planned to do so just a few weeks before, so it was sort of ‘last minute.’ It was lovely. They had all attended another shower my friend had earlier in the summer, but wanted to also have their own. They also all got me MORE gifts – which was definitely not necessary but very generous and sweet. I sent thank you notes to each of them after the first shower, without knowing we would be having another.
The wedding is in 7 days. All will be attending. Now – should I send thank you cards for the shower this past wknd NOW, or wait until after the wedding and send them then as a ‘thank you for everything’ sort of thing? If I send them now, they’ll be getting 3 thank-you cards from me in a span of like 3 weeks LOL. Is that dumb? Or is that what etiquette would tell me to do?
Of course I am running around like a chicken with my head cut off in these last few days, but I can make time for the thankyous if I need to, b/c thank-yous in general are important.
What do you guys think? WWWBD?
Post # 3
I am of the camp that you should send a separate thank you card for each gift, and send the card as soon as possible. However, since you are SO close to the wedding, I think it is ok to hold off until after to send the thank yous out. No need to add more stress to your plate, and I am sure that your shower attendees understand you are super busy this week.
Post # 4
Thank you Jordyn! That’s sort of what I was thinking, too. Anyone else?
Post # 5
Seven days is just too short a turnaround to write all those thank-you notes during such an intense time. Write them when you get back.
Post # 6
I think that you’re fine for sending one thank you note to each person–just be sure to mention both the shower and wedding gifts so both are acknowledged.
You’re a lucky girl!
Post # 7
I would send out thank you notes for the shower gifts you just received. My guests received their shower thank you notes and wedding invites the same day. I just recieved my friend’s shower thank you notes – and her wedding was 6 weeks ago, shower was 2 months ago.
Do it now so you won’t forget~
Post # 8
I don’t see any reason why you need to stress about getting them all done before the wedding. I’d be sure to get your list organized and leave it at that until after the wedding festivities! People will understand.
Post # 9
This is a case where etiquette and practicality can go hand-in-hand, as long as you’re careful. None of your shower guests should be expecting a thank-you note until after your wedding, with the exception of the hostess — she needs a note and small gift immediately.
When you write your notes post-wedding, be sure to thank the appropriate people. Example: female relative attends shower, gives gift. She and her husband attend wedding, give gift. The thank-you for them should include specific thanks to female relative for attending the shower and the gift, then thank the couple for attending the wedding and that gift.
Basically, it’s more the content of the note than the specific timing. A bland “thanks for everything!” won’t suffice, but as long as sincere thanks and details are included, you’ll be just fine.
And… best wishes on your wedding!!
Post # 10
I agree with some of the other posters that you shouldn’t stress yourself out more with extra thank-yous. I’m sure they know you’re grateful, and busy! Just mention their shower gift or whatever along with the wedding thank you. I wouldn’t mind, as long as one gift doesn’t go un-noticed. I went to a wedding and shower this summer and only ever got a thank you card for the wedding gift.