Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor is currently planning my shower and has asked for my registry info. However, we’re not registered anywhere. We were hoping the lack of registry would mean guests would give cash.
How does this work for the bridal shower though? I know ladies would generally prefer giving items over envelopes, and I certainly would not want to sit in a circle opening envelopes.
If you didn’t register, what was done for your shower gifts?
Post # 2
Honestly I would probably register for a couple things you guys would like. A lot of people don’t like to give cash at showers since the big event of a shower is watching the bride open gifts. When those items are bought up people will still give you cash at your wedding.
Post # 3
Your Maid/Matron of Honor could have a themed shower:
- recipes with the ingredients to make it
- time of day shower- each person is assigned an hour on the clock and brings something relevant to that time of day- e.g 7 am-coffee and mugs
- stock the bar shower- guests bring wine, beer, liquers. liquor etc
There are lots of other ideas.
Post # 4
wow, the stock the bar would be great as we’re providing our own liquor. I need to think about that, thanks!
Post # 5
One thing that has appealed to me is having a lingerie themed bridal shower.
You can never have enough underwear or bras and they can be fun for your guests to look for!Unless you’re extremely overweight and it might make the shopping part awkward, but if you’re just a basic size it’d be very easy for guests to pick up. Bridal showers tend to me more intimate so it’s not like it’d even be weird for your Future Sister-In-Law or BFF to know your bra size, haha.
Even if you registered at VS it’s not an overly expensive store and it’d be funny to watch the bride open them.
Post # 6
I would register for a couple items, it doesn’t hurt to upgrade what you already have!! That way if some guests aren’t able to give cash, they do have an alternate choice. It’s always nice to give options 🙂
Post # 7
This is fantastic as well!
Post # 8
It’s meant to be “stock their home bar” not stock the bar for the wedding.
Post # 9
It’s expected that the bride will open the shower gifts at the shower so everyone can oohh and aah over them. Cash isn’t a suitable shower gift and ahowing off gifts of underwear (lingerie shower) is awkward and weird for many people. Either create a registry, do a themed shower as julies1949 suggested, or roll the dice and see what turns up!
Post # 10
If you’re having a shower, I would really consider registering somewhere. That, or risk getting whatever random items your guests pick out. It’s not all that customary (in my area at least) to gift money for the bridal shower. I also agree with charlieb15
that people will still give cash at the wedding when the registry is cleared out. You can always go in a remove extra items from the registry after the shower is over.
Without a registy, I personally would be inclined to give nothing if the invite were money grabby in nature, or else I might buy a small gift item of my choosing. Just my opinion though.
Cute theme ideas!
Post # 11
A coworker of mine is having a gift card shower. To restaurants, stores for daily needs like Target/grocery store/etc., and Lowe’s/Home Depot giftcards to help with their future house.
Post # 12
I would register.
If not I would decline a shower.
Post # 13
Like other Bees said, people like to bring gifts for the bride to open to a shower, so I would register somewhere so you don’t get random items you don’t need. You’ll still get money at your wedding. Or, skip the shower, stay unregistered, and you’ll most likely get money from almost everyone at the wedding.
Post # 14
I would either register or decline the shower. As a guest I would be very confused about what to get you for a shower if there was no registry and you will likely end up with a bunch of stuff you don’t need.
Post # 15
I would not give cash at a shower.
If I was invited to a shower with no registry and
- I was close to the bride: I would think “hm, that’s weird” and buy whatever I thought she would want or need from whatever store has it
- I was not close to the bride: I would think “hm, that’s weird” and decline to go.