Post # 1
Im trying to decide what to register for or if at all.
My fiance and I have been together 8 years, lived to gether for about 2 years and just bought our first home. We just had a housewarming in December where people gave us gift card and some cash. For the house we need big ticket items like furniture and I dont think its acceptable to ask for that kind of stuff. We originally decided on no registry at all so people would just give cash (I even made a card box for that purpose). Now I’m thinking we could register for some things because I dont have a full design idea in mind for the entire house. Here are my thoughts:
1. lingerie gift cards
2. luggage set from Target or Kohls
3. honeymoon excursions (2 or 3)
4. couples spa day
5. dinner at the resort
6. Nikon 1 J2 camera (whats a honeymoon w’o photographic memories)
I wanted to create a general registry where people could pay a portion of the cost for something like the camera is almost $600 so I would need to use a website that allows partial payments per se. Any suggestions?
I have other ideas such as a gift certificate for waxing, home improvement supplies, home decor/furniture, and maybe a china set.
Post # 3
If you are planning to have a shower, you need to have a traditional registry. The entire purpose of a bridal shower is to “shower” the bride to be with gifts that will help her in her married life.
It’s completely ok to NOT have a registry at all, but then it would be in poor taste to have a bridal shower.
I would either do a small traditional registry (towels, sheets, kitchen upgrades, etc.) and spread via word of mouth that you’re saving up for XYZ… your guests will get the hint.
We had a 2 year engagement & already own our home as well, and we still did a decent sized traditional gift registry but we still ended up getting more in gift cards and checks than we did actual gifts.
ETA- whoops, I forgot to respond to the idea of a website that will allow “partial payment” of large ticket items… I wouldn’t do this (well, in my area/social circle, we would take it as offensive that we aren’t smart enough to decide on our own to go in on a gift, but anyway) I was going to say that we registered for items of all price points, and I didn’t expect to get any of the more expensive items, but a group of co-workers decided, all on their own, to pitch in and get one of the bigger items for us.
Post # 5
I think it’s really odd to ask people to basically buy you lingerie.
Post # 6
Our honeymoon is through Wanderable.com. It’s a great site, the credit card fees are the lowest of all the sites we checked, and it free to set up a registry. You can split expensive items into as many as you want so people can pay a portion. I found it really easy to use too.
Post # 7
@DaneLady: Ithis is great help.
Post # 8
@MrsWBS: I wasnt asking just for lingerie but gift cards I guess. All of my friends have already said that’s what they’re buying me…And some people have lingerie showers where people only buy that kind of gift.
Post # 9
@DaneLady: I understand having the shower for traditional gifts for the home but we just had a housewarming and people gave us gift cards for home shopping places like bed bath and beyond, target, walmart; so would it be redundant to do a traditional registry?
*although we spent the gift cards on general house items like stocking up on toilet paper 😉
Post # 10
@Mrs_BB: You don’t have to have a shower at all. Also, a lingerie shower is something that your girlfriends might do as part of your bach party, which is kind of unrelated to a bridal shower entirely. I was just saying if you know you are being thrown a traditional bridal shower, it’s a good idea to have a traditional wedding registry, though neither are required 🙂
Post # 11
@Mrs_BB: same thing in my opinon. I can’t imagine my parents friends or fiance’s family looking at my registry and seeing that personally. Lingiere showers are different – it’s usally only your nearest and dearest female friends who are bringing that stuff along. But, whatever floats your boat. Just giving my opinion about what people who aren’t your close female friends might think when they see that.
Post # 12
If you don’t need household items, don’t have a shower. People just gave you housewarming gifts, and will be getting you wedding gifts. If someone offers to throw a shower, either politely decline or tell them you have enough household items and suggest a ladies’ luncheon instead.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@Mrs_BB: I highy recommend Deposit a Gift. You can “register” for anything you can think of. There’s no obligation to spend the money on the item that people “buy.” It’s really the best way to ask for cash. We’ve already received a lot of money just from Christmas and my bridal shower. It’s fantastic!!!
Post # 14
@DaneLady: @MrsWBS: So I have a question…
While creating my invitations I came across the “Wishing well” poem and at the time thought it was a good idea to put on one of my cards for my invites. Well now after reading that that sort of thing is frowned upon I will remove it. I will do a traditional registry for the bridal shower for a few things because I just dont want a lot of stuff we dont need. I can do one for the following I may use two seperate stores
1. Pot and Pan set
2. luggage set
3. personalized passport covers
4. the camera
5. the spa day
6. honeymoon excursions (I’m unsure how to link this to my website because the excursions are through our cruise line. Not really sure how I would know that someone purchased one for us)
7. and of course the camera. (I have a large enough group of friends who would figure out about $60/person for the camera )
Any other advice?
Post # 15
@futuremrsfitz18: What kind of gifts would people buy us if we dont have a registry?? I want to have a shower, I just dont know what to register for. China that we may never use?
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I’ve heard of a “stock the bar” shower where people bring types of alcohol and stuff like that…