(Closed) Shower registry/Honeyfund/Cash

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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5480 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you are planning to have a shower, you need to have a traditional registry.  The entire purpose of a bridal shower is to “shower” the bride to be with gifts that will help her in her married life.

It’s completely ok to NOT have a registry at all, but then it would be in poor taste to have a bridal shower.

I would either do a small traditional registry (towels, sheets, kitchen upgrades, etc.) and spread via word of mouth that you’re saving up for XYZ… your guests will get the hint.

We had a 2 year engagement & already own our home as well, and we still did a decent sized traditional gift registry but we still ended up getting more in gift cards and checks than we did actual gifts. 

ETA- whoops, I forgot to respond to the idea of a website that will allow “partial payment” of large ticket items… I wouldn’t do this (well, in my area/social circle, we would take it as offensive that we aren’t smart enough to decide on our own to go in on a gift, but anyway) I was going to say that we registered for items of all price points, and I didn’t expect to get any of the more expensive items, but a group of co-workers decided, all on their own, to pitch in and get one of the bigger items for us.

Post # 4
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8701 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@DaneLady:  great advice

Post # 5
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11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it’s really odd to ask people to basically buy you lingerie.

Post # 6
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98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Our honeymoon is through Wanderable.com. It’s a great site, the credit card fees are the lowest of all the sites we checked, and it free to set up a registry. You can split expensive items into as many as you want so people can pay a portion. I found it really easy to use too.

Post # 10
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5480 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrs_BB:  You don’t have to have a shower at all.  Also, a lingerie shower is something that your girlfriends might do as part of your bach party, which is kind of unrelated to a bridal shower entirely.  I was just saying if you know you are being thrown a traditional bridal shower, it’s a good idea to have a traditional wedding registry, though neither are required 🙂

Post # 11
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11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mrs_BB:  same thing in my opinon. I can’t imagine my parents friends or fiance’s family looking at my registry and seeing that personally. Lingiere showers are different – it’s usally only your nearest and dearest female friends who are bringing that stuff along. But, whatever floats your boat. Just giving my opinion about what people who aren’t your close female friends might think when they see that.  

Post # 12
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you don’t need household items, don’t have a shower. People just gave you housewarming gifts, and will be getting you wedding gifts. If someone offers to throw a shower, either politely decline or tell them you have enough household items and suggest a ladies’ luncheon instead.

Post # 13
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3341 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@Mrs_BB:  I highy recommend Deposit a Gift.  You can “register” for anything you can think of.  There’s no obligation to spend the money on the item that people “buy.”  It’s really the best way to ask for cash.  We’ve already received a lot of money just from Christmas and my bridal shower.  It’s fantastic!!!

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I’ve heard of a “stock the bar” shower where people bring types of alcohol and stuff like that…

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