- 5 years ago
So, I’m throwing a shower for my friend. The shower is this coming Saturday. Invites went out later than expected bc I got the guestlist later than expected. Pretty much everyone is local. I sent out fifty invites. Bride is worried that no one is going to come. I have put a ton of time & money into the shower (plus the stress of dealing with her family and other bridesmaids), so I’m hoping that people do make it! I know that she’s mostly concerned about friends, not so much some of her mothers friends and older family members.
So my question is, do you think it would be inappropriate to contact some of the girls on Facebook? There are a lot of them that I know casually, but not well enough to be Facebook friends with them, that were invited. Just a quick message, like, “Hey, sorry to bug you on Facebook, but I noticed you hadn’t gotten a chance to RSVP for the shower and I was checking to see if you were going to be able to join us this Saturday?”
The bride is really worried and I don’t want her to stress out about it. Her family and MOH never offered to throw a shower for her and now that I’ve done most of the work (with a little help from one of the other bridesmaids), everybody wants to get involved and and help, but they only want to do their ideas and do it their way, otherwise they’re offended when I say that we’re doing something different than their idea. And when they ask what they can do, and I suggest they purchase flowers or rent table linens, they don’t actually want to spend any money. And then today, her aunt, who offered to make cheesecake bars for fifty people called and scolded me bc she said that food for that many people should be catered and she just wasn’t going to be able to help out. So now I’m worried that other people are going to do the same thing. And my husband is already bristling at the amount of money I’ve spent on this thing, and the bride wants it to be more like a mini-wedding than a casual shower like we’ve discussed.
So, anyway, the Facebook thing, tacky or no? Would you care if you got that message on Facebook? It would be nice to put the brides fears at bay.