(Closed) Shower Shock

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
596 posts
Busy bee

Did your parents insist on reimbursing your Maid/Matron of Honor such that she had to take the money?  Sometimes it’s hard to read the signals and know exactly when you are supposed to turn down money and when you are supposed to accept it.  I’m not excusing her behavior but I understand that money can be a sticky issue and it’s not always so black and white.  Sorry that this happened at your shower but hope you feel better.

Post # 4
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

flbeachbride — Sorry to hear you feel conflicted on this issue. I think you are doing the right thing by not beating a dead horse and bringing it up again. I honestly don’t think this is your issue at all to be honest. The money was offered, she accepted. It doesn’t sound as if she ASKED for your parents to offer so if they chose to do it, then there is no changing that (You can’t offer money and then simply say no when someone accepts it). She could have possibly took the money so she wouldn’t offend your parents for offering it.

I know you just wrote this to vent so what’s done is done… if I were in your shoes I’d simply forget it and enjoy the generous shower you had. Some people just don’t see things the way you do, and she sounds like one of those people! You may also want to write your parents an extra-heartfelt note as a thank you.

Post # 5
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Yeah just make sure maybe to get your parents a nice gift as a thank you and really know that you didn’t need it and really appreciated it.

Post # 6
2640 posts
Sugar bee

I can understand when it seems like people don’t do what you clearly think is the right thing.  But since you weren’t actaully there when this took place try not to pass judgment on her.  If your Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t ask, I don’t think you should be so hard on her.  Maybe she didn’t know what to do.  Maybe your parents really pushed it on her.  Maybe it was their way of giving a little to her for her hard work, and thanking her. 

But you are doing the right thing by not saying anything to her.  Enjoy your wedding.

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