Post # 1
I just had my shower last week and had a few questions about thank yous.
Most of the cards were signed from John and Jane for example, even though only Jane attended. I think it’s more proper to address the card to both people, since the intention is that the gift is from both but then I can’t write something like “it was so great to see you at the shower.” Thoughts? If you wrote both names on the card, did you address the envelope to only the woman?
How did you sign your cards? I’m thinking love is a bit too formal for all but the more immediate family. I’ve read that “Warmly” or “With Regards” are popular suggestions.
Did you send thank yous to people who did not send a gift? We had people unable to attend who sent a card with a recipe in it (my family had people include a favorite recipe with their cards).
Post # 3
@Cem0930: address the notes to whoever sent the gift even if they werent at the shower (such as the male). In the note you can thank whoever was at the shower (thanks for the gift blah blah and Jane, I am so glad you were able to attend my shower. I had a lovely time, etc.)
For my engagment party I signed some of them love (to really good famiyl friends, etc) and the others were something like thanks again or warmly.
If they sent something thank them! even if it was a receipe
Post # 4
I’m working on my shower thank you cards right now and I’m just addressing them to the actual attendees (except in one case where FI’s aunt came but her daughter couldn’t and she wrote that she was sorry she couldn’t come inside their joint card). Most of the women signed their cards from just them anyway.
I’m also signing them all, “Love”. It just feels right to me! Many of the women who came have known me my whole life and I always sign cards to my friends with “love”.
I didn’t receive any gifts from anyone who didn’t attend my shower, so I don’t have any of those notes to send. I would probably send a card to someone if they sent me a recipe and a card, but that’s up to you! I would personally.
Post # 5
@Cem0930: Actually, good question. All the cards/gifts from my shower were addressed to me… I think one was addressed to both of us but I just signed the card since the shower is really usually for the bride. As far as sending thank yous for the ones who didn’t come and sent the recipe – you could just write them a thank you for the recipe and for thinking of you and how you wish they would have been able to come but you can’t wait to see them at the wedding (if they’re coming)
Post # 6
@maggiemay0811: oh – and i signed “LOVE” also. It just felt the most appropriate and I actually knew everyone really well – it wasn’t like my mom’s friend from work or anything – you could always sign with just a THANKS! instead of “Love” if you don’t know the person well.
Post # 7
I would address the envelope to the couple if the card was from the couple. In the prose of the thank-you, I might say something like, “Thank you so much for the beautiful blah blah blah. JANE, it was wonderful to spend time with you and I hope you had a great time. Fiance and I can’t wait to see you both on [wedding date].”
I would probably sign it myself, since i’m the one writing it!
Post # 8
PS–I also use cre8tive sign offs, like “Go Sox, as usual–” or “Yours, in CA–” but “warmly” or “love” are perfectly fine. “Regards” sounds a bit business-y to me, but I don’t think it’s offensive or wrong if that’s what you’re comfortable with.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
If I felt “love” was too much, I put “with love and thanks.”
Post # 10
Thanks everyone! If you had a mother and daughter come to the shower that lived together and gave you a gift from both of them, would you send one thank you note addressed to both of them or separate ones? Is it different if the daughter is 18+ or younger?