Post # 1
1. Would you send a thank you to a shower guest who didn’t bring a gift? Scenario A: I have one guest who attended my other shower and brought a gift to that. I told her to not bring a gift. Scenario B: A couple guests that were only at this particular shower.
2. I received a very generous gift with a card that was signed by a mom and her adult daughter (her mom wrote the names). The daughter lives on the opposite coast and because of that wasn’t invited to the shower. The mom did not attend, as she was visiting her daughter I knew she felt bad she couldn’t attend.. She’s the type of person who would probably just sign her daughter’s name, but it’s also slightly possible that her daughter contributed. It would be awkward to address the thank you to both the mom and the daughter. I’m leaning towards just sending one to the mom…. thoughts?
Post # 3
1. I would probably send a thank you for them all for coming.
2. I would send seperate thank yous to the mom and daughter. Her name was on the card, so you should thank her too, even if she didn’t financially contribute.
Post # 4
I don’t think there’s a case of “too many thank you notes” out there!
Post # 5
Yeah I agree. I’d send them all a thank-you. Better to be overly courteous than not!
Post # 6
Everyone gets a thank you card come heck or high water. IMO
Post # 7
1. I would send a thank you for coming card. Especially if anyone traveled.
2. Just send two thank you cards. Since, like you said, they live on opposite sides of the country, the daughter couldn’t very well sign her own name, but chances are they split the cost.
Post # 8
A good rule of thumb in my opinion is to send thank you cards to everyone whose names appear on the cards. Regardless of whether she financially contributed or not, if her name is on the card, you should send her a thank you!
Post # 9
i would send two thank yous to mother and daughter.
i personally think people who don’t get any gift are a little unreasonable . it doens’t have to be an expensive gift, but I think it’s thoughtless to go empty handed for something as important as a wedding function. I personally wouldn’t thank people for coming without a gift. While the gift is itself non-essential, it does represent thought, care, and is appropriate.