(Closed) Shower Thank-You’s – from me or us?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012


Post # 4
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Unless they are address to both of you, shower thank yous will be from the bride.

Post # 5
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My sister did them from herself but made sure to say “Mister and I will enjoy using the platter” or something “we” in there, just signing her own name.

Post # 6
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I wrote my name and my fiance’s name as he attended the shower with me and when looking up registries it’s in both of our names.

Post # 7
1725 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would think if the gifts are for both of you to use, that you would send them from both of you?

Post # 8
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If the shower was just for you (i.e. he did not attend or help open gifts) then you should send them from just you.

Post # 9
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@LadyBear:  I *think* I said from both of us. If I recall correctly, most of the cards were to both of us (he was not present at the shower) and they were gifts that both of us were going to use eventually anyway.

Post # 10
5762 posts
Bee Keeper

I’d sign them from both, unless it’s a personal/lingerie shower (in which case it would be for both anyway, but you specifically).

Shower gifts are given to the couple, and his presence or absence has nothing to do with it.

Post # 11
3121 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m using my shower as an opportunity to use up the rest of my personalized (maiden name) stationary!  Typically, if just you attend, the notes are just from you. 

Post # 12
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I signed both of our names to all of our thank you cards, even though Fiance did not go to my shower.  I would rather err on the side of him thanking his relatives than insulting them.

Post # 13
7902 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Just from you.

Post # 14
878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I plan on writing thank yous w/ fiance. I keep reminding him it’s our wedding, not MY wedding. The shower gifts are for the both of us as well, so both of us should participate in thanking each person.

Post # 15
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

All of our shower TY’s were just from me. While the gifts were for him too, it was MY shower. Unless you’re having a co-ed shower, I’d say just sign the TY’s from you. Another thought would be to reference the card that came with the gift and go from there. If it was made out to both of you, it wouldn’t hurt to sign his name. 

Post # 16
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

They were written “from” me, but I made sure to mention how much we would both enjoy using the gift.

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