Post # 1
My sister is also getting married this year (yay!). Her best friend is the Maid/Matron of Honor, I am a bridesmaid, so I contacted her and the other bridesmaids about throwing a shower. Maid/Matron of Honor liked the idea of having a wine tasting shower (I threw out a bunch of suggestions). I was sort of second guessing this because one of the other bridesmaids is pregnant and I know some of the guests don’t like wine, but I thought we could make it work.
I called my mom and she was super rude about the whole thing. She basically said my sister “doesn’t even like wine that much” (she went to a wine tasting with my dad before and drinks wine fairly often). She basically accused us of planning something that my sister won’t like, and said showers should only be about playing games and having a bow hat and sandwiches. Can you tell she’s super stuck in her ways?!
I want to have a super fun theme for the shower to prove my mom wrong, but I’m leaning away from the wine tasting anyway. Give me all your best suggestions ladies!
Post # 3
the destination of her honeymoon, a chocolate shower. what kinds of things does your sister like?
Post # 4
Tea party a la Alice in Wonderland is good.
I’m hoping to have a water balloon fight at mine, but that’s because they’re so fun 🙂
Post # 5
I loved Miss Green Tea’s “Sugar Spice and Everything Nice” shower that she blogged about. I think it was for her Maid/Matron of Honor…
Post # 6
I like the Breakfast at Tiffany themes.
My friends did a small wine tasting at my lingerie shower. It was only one of the items we had at my shower. They had other drinks, games, food etc. So it was fun for those who enjoy the wine thing and nice for the 4 pregnant guests to fill their bellies with yummy food and drinks.
Post # 7
Ooo, tea party WOULD be fun! Great ideas so far ladies!
@artbee – my sister likes a lot of sci fi stuff but I don’t think she would be into that for a shower. Though, I think a Harry Potter shower would be hilarious!!
Post # 8
I like vintage2010’s idea… have it just be a part of the shower, if you really want it. Having wine be the main thing would be rude to pregnant or recovering alchoholic guests, and I don’t see how a long tasting would be fun for anyone besides people really into wine.
As for other themes, I really like the one of destination of the honeymoon. Or maybe places the couple has been together. And yes, there’s a lot of “stuck in their ways” ideas out there, but many of them have been around for a while because they work! I really hope to have a “rooms of the house” shower when I get married… I love to cook and I hope for a lot of recipes!
Post # 9
@coffeecake – it’s not that I don’t like traditional showers (I asked to have games and a ‘bowhat’ at mine!) but my aunt is throwing her one of those already, so I thought it would be fun to do something a little different for ours. The wine tasting wasn’t going to be the entire shower, but sort of a theme throughout. If the whole time was filled with wine tasting, we’d be sending a lot of drunk people home in the afternoon, which isn’t a good idea!
Post # 10
Yikes…sounds like your mom is looking for an old fashioned shower! I love the idea of a wine tasting shower (that said, I think most of my friends and family know how much I love wine!) and think it’s a really lovely, grown up, non-embarassing shower idea!
Here are some ideas for you:
– Have you considered having more than one shower? One for the young girls (friends, cousins, etc) and one for the older ladies (moms, aunts, grandmas)? This seems to be fairly typical these days. That way you can have the obligatory day of tea sandwiches and bow hats and also have something the younger ladies will enjoy. If you do this just make sure not to invite people to both events. Some people may be offended and think you’re trying to get two gifts out of them!
– Maybe you could talk to your sister to get a sense of what she’d like to do? That way if you’re on the right track you can talk it over with your mom. Try not to tell her your idea, just get a sense of what she’d like. She may well say, “Anything except toilet paper dresses and bow hats!”
– Maybe you can do a classy version of a high tea? I think that would tread the middle ground. Tea sandwiches, peti fours, and chocolate dipped strawberries on tiered plates are totally gorgeous and super vintage chic right now.
**And I don’t mean to say that the bow hats type party isn’t nice, but it doesn’t seem to be what you think your sis would enjoy (I know mine wouldn’t and she got ENGAGED THIS WEEKEND!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D). And you can’t deny that it’s old fashioned!
Post # 11
What does your sister like? It really doesn’t matter what your mom likes or doesn’t since she isn’t hosting it and it isn’t for her. Showers consist of more than just sandwiches. Some people serve just cake and punch and others have mini-weddings complete with full meals. There’s no right or wrong as to what all is done. It sounds like no matter what you do, mom is going to hate it so do whatever will make your sister feel happy (that of course doesn’t inconvenience any guests).
Post # 12
My aunts are planning to throw me a shower with wine/cheese/desserts because very few brides want to wear a paper plate hat with bows stuck all over it (my aunt’s description). I’m super excited because I was looking forward to an event where we all get caught up and have fun.