(Closed) Shower woes. Mom asking for more money from MOH/Bridesmaids.

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

if your mom over spent, and she was the who ordered it, that’s her problem not the rest of the bridal party….

I would personally go to your mom and tell her she cannot ask people to pitch in after all the planning has already been done

Post # 4
2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@smcs28:  +1.


Asking the other bridesmaids to pay for an event they did not offer to host and had no input in planning is not an option.  Your mom needs to eat these costs if she can’t scale back the plans at this point.

Post # 6
1737 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

EEK! You inadvertently put your MOH in a pickle by going to your Mom. I feel sorry for MOH because she was just trying to help. Your Mom sounds like a bit of a Drama Queen. She seems to be looking for a fight and no matter what you say, it will turn into one…so just do what you can to comfort MOH and let Mom calm down and realize what a pill she’s being.

Post # 8
1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I feel so bad for your MOH…..and for you.

Post # 9
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh my gosh :-/ tell your mom you’re canceling the shower and completely remove her from this process.  Ask your MOH if she wants to postpone or reschedule the shower and re-plan something cheaper and simpler. My mom does that too (makes big plans, assumes someone else is paying…she insisted that I use the caterer that was $70pp for the wedding rather than the $30pp one I wanted, then freaked out when I asked her to pay the difference) so I just don’t involve her in things anymore.  We plan around her and don’t let her in on the details, but still invite her as a participant.

I’ve never been to a “big shower” so as far as I know, showers are really fun when there’s mingling, mimosas, pastries, and coffee, a quiz about the bride, and gifts.  I can’t imagine hiring caterer for something like this.

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