Post # 1
My dilema is that I am Maid/Matron of Honor for a bride who’s other BM’s, friends and family are all scattered around the country. I am an hour drive away from the bride and an 8 hour drive away from the closest Bridesmaid or Best Man (and an airplane ride away from the next closest).
I have anticipated planning the shower and Bachelorette on my own, which is fine…. but not sure how to go about it. I have until next Spring to really start laying down some plans, but I’d like some opinions.
1. Do both Shower and Bachelorette in one day, a week before the wedding (give plenty of notice) and hope that most of the out of town family, friends and BM’s can attend
2. Do both Shower and Bachelorette in one day, a month or two before the wedding and make it a weekend trip to a location that people can meet up in
3. Do a Shower just for the family and friends who are in town, and then a small Bachelorette spa weekend for just she and I
There are pros and cons to every option and I am of course willing to hear suggestions that I haven’t thought of.
Let me know what you think!
Post # 3
I think you should send an email asking the other BMs what they prefer? Or the mom’s too if they’re out of town as well.
Post # 4
I think a week before the wedding is going to be difficult for those flying in and seem a little gift intensive…. people will have to give for the shower and than the wedding and make it difficult to send out timely thank you cards.. Just my two cents!
Post # 5
@BuffaloDots: Good thought. I don’t want to leave the other girls out completely. As for the Moms’s… they are sort of the opposite of Momzilla’s. Her Mom hasn’t shown much interest in the wedding at all
Post # 6
I think a month or two before the wedding, given that people are going to have to travel to attend. Then give PLENTY of notice, so nobody feels that they’ve missed out or weren’t able to make travel plans. Plus, it would make for a fun weekend. 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
Definitely give advance notice if there’s travel involved, but I think doing it a month before the wedding is wise. If you have the shower AND bach party the weekend for the wedding, the bride and others might be getting stressed about getting last-minute things done and may not be able to enjoy the parties. I’m getting married in 2 weeks and I would be unhappy if I didn’t have the weekend before the wedding to get in touch with vendors, finish up last-minute crafts, and just try to relax and have some fun before the big week starts.
Post # 8
Crap, I voted wrong! I accidentally voted for a week before, but I DEFINITELY meant a month before. The week before would have been WAY too hectic – plus, you don’t want guest burnt out on gift giving 🙂
Post # 9
I think a month or so before the wedding sounds great, but it can never hurt to check with the other ladies and see what they they are able to do. If it turns out they won’t be able to travel for both the shower/bach weekend and the wedding, you could see what kind of things you could put together for anyone who is in town or within driving distance. Good for you for getting a head start on planning, and good luck!
Post # 10
The week before option was actually the Bride’s idea. She figured that some of the Out of Town guests might be making a big trip of out and coming for a whole week, and this would save them the expense of coming twice. She probably hasn’t considered how busy she might be.
Nobodies keen on the spa idea for just her and I? I only know one of the other BM’s and very few of her friends (she has moved a lot, so her has pockets of friends everywhere). I figured a Bachelorette might be poorly attended (if we do the month before option) and most people will be meeting for the first time.