Shower/Bachelorette planning advice

posted 8 months ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The bride’s mother is abiding by traditional etiquette. The MOB never used to host a shower and in some areas still doesn’t. Given that she has offered the use of her home, you (in the greater sense) should be able to host a shower. Keep in mind though that this is purely voluntary. If you can’t afford it, you can’t afford it. The couple made the decision to move the wedding to NYE, not you.

Contact the rest of the bridal party separately and privately and ask if they are interested in co-hosting a shower, and if so what they are prepared to do or pay for. Really all you need are some dime store invitations, some light refreshments and a couple of prizes for games. If no one steps up, you can tell the bride’s mother that it is simply not possible for you to host the shower, and suggest that maybe someone else in the bride’s family could step up.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Agreed, the mothers are typically not the ones hosting the showers.

If you can’t afford the shower, don’t host it.  If the other girls don’t step up, then there won’t be a shower.  No one is obligated to throw parties they don’t want ot or can’t afford.

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