(Closed) Shower..MOB and MOG?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
46419 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would invite her just to be polite. I would follow up with a phone call to make sure that she understood that we welcomed her presence and didn’t need her present, as we know that the FI’s family already has plans for a shower.

Post # 4
4583 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

For my shower, I made up the guest list myself and sent it to my Maid/Matron of Honor, but I’m a control freak so maybe it’s not normally done that way? Anyway, I never considered NOT inviting my Future Mother-In-Law but we’re doing a jack ‘n jill and inviting a handful of family from both sides. I think it’s only polite to invite the MOG.

Post # 5
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i am also a control freak 🙂

i made the list as well. and I invited his mother, cousins, aunts and grandma. we all spend time together anyway and it was so great having them all there!

Post # 7
375 posts
Helper bee

It’s customary that the bridal party and mothers be invited to all wedding functions unless it’s a specific group thing (e.g., her mother’s book club, the bride-to-be’s office mates, etc.), though they’re only expected to gift once, no matter how many showers, teas, lunches or what-have-you they’re invited to.

If you know for a fact that someone on the groom’s side is also throwing a shower, you don’t want to overlap on the general guest list, but I’d definitely invite the MoG, especially since the MoB will be there. Even if she chooses not to attend, it’s always better to have extended that olive branch.

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