Post # 1
My wedding shower was this past weekend and it was really wonderful. I am a bit taken aback though about something, and I truly get the while "registry is for those who haven’t decided what to get you" element but I am curious too.
I literally received 4 things off of my registry, one was a pot holder, two were purchased at a garage sale (and look it) and one is only part of a set… Everyone else did their own thing. Has anyone else experienced this as well? It was not a huge shower, a lot of people are from out of town or were on vacation but it was the only time that worked for the people who were most important. I had a great time but it is a little bit of a let down to have spent so much time picking out the things we wanted to start our life with and then to have all of these very sentimental people pick out whatever pot holders they wanted… I like most of what I was given but a lot it more frivolous and not quite what we needed and very little if any of it is returnable items.
Has anyone else had a shower where everyone did their own thing too? How did you handle the feeling afterwards of both being grateful but a little disappointed too?
Post # 3
Based on what people on the boards were saying, I was actually expecting this to happen. Surprisingly, I found that most people did buy from the registry or give us a gift card for the stores at which we are registered. Some people gave us gifts off registry that weren’t our taste at all, which is annoying, but a gift is a gift. That being said, those gifts have already been donated to Goodwill. =)
Did you register in a wide variety of price points? Or register at a store that isn’t everywhere or readily available? Did the hostess make sure to spread the word where you guys were registered?
Sorry to hear that this happened, but most larger stores with bridal registries have good return policies!
Post # 4
Before my shower both of my fsil’s made comments about how they saw something super cute that they thought I would love at Department 56. I am registered at Macy’s. Also, I don’t collect things and have never seen anything I like at Department 56. So, I just kind of laughed and said, "too bad I don’t collect things" and then added "Fh and I had so much fun picking out our registry, I can’t wait to see what people got us!" They got the point quickly and this sentiment seemed to spread. Almost everything at my shower was off the registry, and those items that weren’t were things like handmade pot holders that matched my kitchen colors and one joke gift of metal sporks because I kept "complaining" that none of the silverware sets at Macy’s had sporks (I love sporks — go Taco Bell!).
Post # 5
I was worried about this as well, my shower was on Saturday. I got a lot from my registry, and somethings not off my registry – so it evened out. I’m more worried about this for the wedding. With how much of my stuff is online only, and people last minute shop for weddings….makes me want to go back into the stores and change some stuff.
I’m sorry you’re a little bummed about the shower – I know I woulnd’t be too happy if I got garage sale stuff, even if it was brand new! I’m sure it will get better! Are you having another shower?
Post # 6
From my personal experience, a lot of the showers I’ve attended have been more personal, off-registry gifts because a lot of people buy off the registry for the actual wedding gift. The only shower I recall the couple receiving a lot of registry items was a jack ‘n jill shower that was for both the bride and groom and both men & women guests were invited. I know it’s difficult to suppress those feelings of disappointment but try to not dwell on it and focus on the fact that those important to you took time out of their busy lives to help you celebrate. I’m sure you’ll receive many more things off your registry on your wedding day!