Post # 1
I’m hoping you ladies can help me….how do I tell my my MoH and Bridesmaid or Best Man that I hate showers especially surprise ones? They make me feel like the centre of attention and I have small panic attacks. I know that they are excited to plan them though. Should I suck it up and let them plan them or should i ask them please don’t throw me showers?
Has anyone else been in this situation?
Thanks for the help
Post # 3
I’ve been there, I’ve had people insist and I folded… there are somethings that you can do to make it a little less intimidating though.
Talk to them about limiting the number of guests that are being invited. My coworker REALLY wanted to throw me a shower, but I told her that I would only do it if I could control the invites. We’re having less then 10 people at her house for a small lunch thing.
Maybe instead of a shower you can ask to have a girl’s lunch at a restaurant? This would stop the “putting the seat in the middle of the room and watching you open your gifts” thing. Just thinking of that makes me nervous. It would be more casual and it might help you from being the center of everything.
Try and emphasize that you don’t like being the center of attention, and that it has nothing to do with them. I’ve found if you straight up say “no” to letting people throw you a shower they get really offended. They really just want to do something nice for you. Good Luck!!!
Post # 4
I think you should let them have their fun. Plus, bridal showers can be very useful.
I would just have a hand in the planning so the environment is less intimidating to you.
Post # 5
I say let them know. Tell them if the must do it let you know in advance and keep it small close friends and family so you don’t have to a panic attack. I don’t think they would want to do anything that would lead to a panic attack.