- 8 years ago
I’m not having a wedding party but my 3 BFF’s are throwing me a bridal shower. They plan to do a cocktail/hors d’ourves type party.
My mom had been stressing about making sure my sister threw me one. My sister does not want to throw me a shower, so I kept telling my mom that if she (my mom) wanted to throw a shower, then she should do it (and not pressure my sister).
The type of shower my mom would like is an afternoon tea.
My friends had the intention of having a shower designed for friends – while my mom’s would be designed for family.
The issue is my mom is fretting about it. She’s not a party planner at all and keeps asking me what she should do. She’s a total worrier. I could easily plan the shower with her, but I don’t want to do that. I could also have a friend help her with the shower, but I know it will still cause her a lot of stress.
So, the other option, is to have my mom contribute to the friends shower and have it be one big shower and call it a day. (The friends only shower would be between 20-30 people, and the family one would be about 13-15).
I asked my mom last week to think about what she wanted to do and let me know. I think she was initially worried I wasn’t going to have a shower at all (super sweet for her to care) and wanted to make sure I had one.
What do you think? Go the easy route and do one big shower? Or, potentially deal with mama stress issues and have her do a separate shower with the help of one of my friends.