(Closed) Showing consideration for her feelings…

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
1283 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

ZebraPrintMe:  going out to lunch to reconnect as just sisters and not talk about wedding stuff is a good idea, that is a nice gesture on your part. Honestly I would not go over the top otherwise to try to cast more attention on her while you are planning your wedding. I’m sure once your wedding is done and it’s “her time” it will be ALL about her up until her wedding. 

She sound incredibly immature to have hurt feelings about you getting married first – she’s been engaged 5 years and that was her choice. 

Post # 3
2581 posts
Sugar bee

Is she waiting for plastic surgery or cosmetic surgery?  

Plastic surgery corrects the effects of disease or damage and I can sympathise with the wait although five years is a long time.

Cosmetic surgery might be something like a breast enlargement or an eyebrow lift and I’m not sure that I can sympathise with the wait quite so much.

A person doesn’t have to look perfect on his or her wedding day.  Better to spend the time being married.


Post # 4
714 posts
Busy bee

ZebraPrintMe:  yeah, you really don’t need to put your life on hold for her. this is quite unreasonable… they could have married years ago! i think it’s nice of you to put some effort in your relationship… you made her your BM so the two of you should be getting along in my opinion. 

Post # 5
3028 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Personally, I don’t see why your wedding should be about her at all.

She will have her day when it’s her turn. If she expects you to be helpful when it’s time to plan her wedding, she will be helpful now. And even if she had no expectations of getting married, if she agreed to be your BM, she should step up.

If she can’t handle it, that’s really her problem.

Post # 7
2581 posts
Sugar bee



She just needs to get married and not wait for after the surgery, and certainly not delay your wedding plans.

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