Post # 1
Just curious as to what everyone’s take on this would be. Is it showing off or motivational if one of your girlfriends sends you a picture of how many miles they run every morning early in the morning?
This is something that is happening to me and I am not quite sure how to take it. It’s not something I have asked for nor do I send her pictures of my workouts. Every once in a while I do post a picture on snapchat post-run of the scenery (I run around a lake so the scenery is quite pretty). I also post it to my story and do not send it directly to anyone. The pictures she sends me are of her Apple watch showing me the calories she burn and how many miles she ran.
If I am completely honest sometimes it does demotivate me. I am not quite as physically fit as her and when she sends me a picture where she runs more miles than me it creates a competition in my head. Many days I don’t let it bother me but the more frequent it becomes the harder is becoming to ignore. It happened again this morning so this is why I am posting about it. This issue is not life shattering but I am just curious as to what you guys think? You think I am looking at this all wrong and should use it as motivation? Or do you think this is a sign of some low-key competitiveness and should be talked about?
Anyone experienced something similar?
Post # 2
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
I wouldn’t find this motivational, I’d find it irritating and frankly a little boring – why would I care how many calories someone else had burned? I don’t think she’s necessarily showing off, it could just be that she’s proud of herself and wants to share it with you, but it depends if she’s normally a competitive person.
My best friend is a runner, and she’ll often post online about her personal bests, but it’s usually because she feels a sense of achievement and wants to share it. If I was getting a text about it every morning though, it’d get old pretty quick. I’d probably stop responding to those particular texts, or maybe respond with a total subject change. Hopefully she’ll take the hint…
Post # 3
Is she sending it to you specifically? It just sounds totally bizarre to me and I would absolutely not find it motivational. The only reason I track runs is to see how far I’ve come, not to send my stats to all and sundry.
Honestly it would make me want to disable notifications from her :-/
Post # 4
lakebee : just ask her to stop. My best friend and I use to do this when we were trying to get in shape and it was more to keep us honest. If I didn’t send her the final display of my morning treadmill she’d call me out that I skipped. BUT we agreed ahead of time to keep tabs on each other and we were both fully aware that she was in better shape than I was. We pushed each other but didn’t compete.
Post # 5
botanistbee : thank you for your input! And yes she sends me a picture via “snapchat” directly to me. If she posted it on her story then it would be a non-issue but it is a message directly to me. She started sending me pics every once in a blue moon but the past 2 weeks have been almost every morning.
Post # 6
Since you also run she probably just thinks this is a shared interest and it is a way to keep in touch with you, plus it probably gives her motivation if she sends it to someone.
I might not be malicious or showing off.
Post # 7
lakebee : Yeah I wouldn’t find this super motivational at all, quite annoying probably. I would say, whilst you are super proud of her and are happy she is enjoying her running, you find it quite demoralising.
Post # 8
Sometimes my friend tells me what she’s eaten or done exercise wise so that I will hold her accountable.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
I have done, and continue to send these out on snapchat. Not every time, but when it’s particularly hard to get out there. It is for my benefit, and others have literally told me it helped them get out the door themselves. She probably sends it to multiple people on her friends list, not just you. If it bothers you, tell her to stop.
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
zzar45 : I agree, she might think that she and the OP are accountability buddies.
lakebee : I’m inclined to think that there’s nothing malicious behind what your friend is doing, but a simple message could clear this up. I have the kind of relationship with my friends where I could say, “Nice run, I feel like such a bum compared to you,” and we’d laugh about it and it wouldn’t be a thing.
Post # 11
Also I don’t know about everyone else but sending a photo or video on snapchat seems way less personal and less serious than actually texting you a photo of her run every day. She is probably including all her friends who are vaguely interested in running or exercise.
Post # 12
zzar45 : I see what you are saying. It definitely can be that she knows I run so she is sharing her experience with me.
I dont know if she sends it to her orher friends so I really cant go off by that. I can only see what people send me or what they post on their story for everyone.
I just wish that we could have had a mutual agreement because even if it is the case that she is motivating herself by sending me pics, it’s kinda having the opposite effect on me. :/
Post # 13
lakebee : I would just lightheartedly bring it up and tell her you aren’t really interested. You aren’t wrong for not wanting to see when she goes on a run, but she isn’t wrong for sending it to you and she isn’t a mind reader so she has no idea this is actually bothering you.
Post # 14
Anyone sending me anything daily would end up smothered in their sleep. It may not be malicious, but it’s freaking annoying.
Post # 15
I have a friend that does this as well and it is really motivating for her, and it keeps her accountable. Honestly, it helps me get a workout in as well, but I am also competitive myself, so if she does something, I want to do something, too. I wouldn’t worry about it. You can ask her to stop but instead of letting it demotivate you, why don’t you flip it and try to let it motivate you? Send one back and say “not quite to where you are, but I’m catching up!”