Showing off or motivational?

posted 1 week ago in The Lounge
Post # 16
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508 posts
Busy bee

I send my SO screen shots of how many miles I complete when I go for a run either outside or on the treadmil. It is a sense of accomplishment to me and I know he’s proud of me for trying to get better physically. He never thinks of it as a competition. I know he does feel bad that he is limited in what he can do physically but his sister and I are trying to get him back to a healthy weight. 

Post # 18
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538 posts
Busy bee

It depends–I have a friend and we text each other our runs, becuase we both find the accountability motivational. But we did say in advance that we were going to do it—and we haven’t been perfect about it even then. Chances are she is trying to motivate HERSELF, not you. She may also (if she is a newer friend) be trying to be in regular contact to develop a sense of closeness.

But if you aren’t finding it psychologically good for you, its fair to ask her to stop! Or you can send her a photo of something unrelated every day (the cup of tea I made myself to remind myself to chill, the donation I made to planned parenthood to contribute to the world, the funny animal GIF I came across to cheer up) to imply that you are taking it as updates and maybe broaden the discussion. 

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2021 - City, State

I’ve NEVER done it without express consent first, but I have done this before, and it’s always been for my OWN motivation.  If someone else is tracking my progress with me, it helps me to continue doing what I’m doing.

I would ask her why she does this, because it may be none of the reasons anyone has commented.  If it’s hindering you, you should (kindly) ask her to stop, and express that you would rather not feel such competition.

I also agree with PP about making it a back and forth if it is a case of her motivating herself.

Sunshine024 :  

Post # 20
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Blushing bee

lakebee :  I am someone who does this. I can tell you I send my bestie pictures of myself, my workouts, updates, whatever it is because I am super happy about the fact that I am working out and I want to share that with her. It is not to show off, its not to make her feel bad, its ONLY point is to show my happiness with sticking with working out for so long

Post # 21
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2675 posts
Sugar bee

I agree that it would be annoying to get those texts every day, but maybe it’s something she is really proud of?  

 

Post # 22
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152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If it’s on snapchat, why don’t you just click it as soon as it comes up so it disappears? Why bother looking at it closely if you find it unmotivating? 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Is this just a Snapchat streak thing? Like that’s the morning snap she sends to probably a handful of people she has streaks with? I have a friend that sends me a snap of her cat, every. Single. Morning. But that’s just what she does for her snap streak. Some people just have a core of people they send the same snap to daily. That can be annoying but I don’t think it’s Braggy or anything, just what she does.

Post # 24
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Helper bee

I’d be annoyed lol, though her intentions may be totally pure. I’d just stop opening snaps from her…that’s my MO when someone starts to annoy me. If it’s facebook I unfollow them…snapchat, stop opening, etc. 

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