Post # 1
Hello Bees! I recently got engaged and I’m SO excited!! One of the best parts about being engaged is showing off your ring, especially to your friends and family. I only got to show my ring so far to my immediate family and my maid of honor and I’ve been a little hurt and sad over how they reacted.
Now my mom, the only thing she’s ever said was that it’s small and its too yellow. And my maid of honor, she didn’t even respond!! She just looked at the ring and changed subjects.
I understand that people have different tastes and styles. I feel like no matter how ugly it is, I would share in the happiness and offer some sort of compliment (“It’s gorgeous, beautiful, pretty…”). I LOVE my ring and I just feel a little let down from the people I love. Sorry this was so long!!
Post # 3
Justengaged, I am sure your ring is stunning! I’m sorry people have been hurtful. The important thing is that you love your ring, but more importantly, your future husband!
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
I too am sure your ring is stunning! It a shame that your mom and Maid/Matron of Honor couldn’t see how important it is to you.
Can we see a picture?
Post # 5
I’m sorry to hear that! I definitely had a hard time when people didn’t show as much enthusiasm as I was feeling. The good news is the hive is the perfect place to get that lovey feeling! I’d love to see a picture of your beautiful ring
Post # 6
Aww that stinks that those people didn’t show their enthusiasm how you had hoped! I think sometimes people’s own personal tastes get in the way. Instead of being excited for what the ring stands for (that you are getting married to your love), people pick something to be jealous about or react negatively to. All that matters is that you are going to be spending your life with the man you love, and he took the time and effort to get you a beautiful symbol for his committment to you.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
You can show it off to us! We’ll be happy to see it!
As far as the mean comments, peoples’ negative reactions to your wedding are always about THEM, never about you. I’m remembering the bee on another board who just posted that someone took one look at her sapphire and said, "Oh, can’t afford a diamond?" Don’t worry about them, they’re nuts!
Congratulations on your engagement!
Post # 8
That’s not cool! Post a picture on here! I promise the bees will give you all the compliments you could need! I’m sure it’s GORGEOUS, regardless of whether it fits *my* taste! And congratulations!
Post # 9
People can be obnoxious!
My cousin got a gorgeous 1ct diamond ring- the setting had been the groom’s grandmothers and my aunt did was say that it was too small! Mind you my uncle had gotten my aunt’s ring overseas (in the 1970s) and it was so big people thought it was fake! So maybe she has a skewed perspective?
My mom also had a bad reaction to my sister’s ring. She and her Fiance purchased it together since they are relatively young and don’t have a lot of money. My sister chose to sacrifice color and clarity for size and she loves her ring. Thankfully my mom kept her mouth shut in front of my sister and just complained to me about how crappy the stone was.
I think if you don’t have a ring that is something they would have chosen a lot of mothers will just say flat out they don’t like it. It’s like their brains shut off and mean, inappropriate stuff comes out of their mouths!
You aren’t alone in this, but please, please, please try hard to put it behind you and not let it put a damper on your hapiness and planning! It’s not about the ring- it’s about the marriage! You’re getting married! Celebrate!!!
Post # 10
That sucks and I’m sorry your mom and Maid/Matron of Honor had such odd reactions to seeing your ring. I don’t want to speculate the reason for their less than enthusiastic reactions (maybe jealously, maybe their own insecurities…who knows). Don’t let it get you down and enjoy your engagement!
I received some weird reactions too. My phony "friend" who is very superficial made a big deal about wanting to see the ring, but when she saw it she said, "oh, that’s cute" in a way that made it very clear she didn’t think much of my ring. My aunt (who I love dearly) said something like, are you going to make him get you a bigger diamond later…I was like, what?!?! People are strange sometimes…
Post # 11
Congratulations on your engagement!!! The only person who needs to love your ring is you, so try not to let it bother you. Remember the love and thought that went into picking it out and giving it to you. Enjoy this time of your life, it is fabulous!
Post # 12
Congratulations on getting engaged!!! I agree with everyone who has commented that we are sorry you had a less than great reaction from mom and Maid/Matron of Honor. People kill me sometimes! I had a similar situation since my ring is very unique, people would open there big mouths and say, "that doesn’t look like an Engagement Ring," or "did you even help pick it out? I even had comments on my center stone being too small. At the end of the day, I LOVE my ring and my fiance even more than a piece of jewelery. This is a great site for support- now show us that beautiful ring and get excited about your wedding!
Post # 13
Thank you SO much for all the lovely, encouraging, fantabulous comments..truly refreshing. It is most definitely about your marriage at the end and not about the ring! You ladies are amazing! Here are some pictures of the ring. =)
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Post # 14
Ooooh! I love your ring! It reminds me of the Tiffany’s Swing line, with all the different shapes of diamonds. No way is that "too yellow" or "too small"!! I am sure your ring will make plenty of other girls swoon with envy.
Post # 15
Wow, it’s beautiful. I wonder why they reacted like that! CONGRATS!
Post # 16
That ring is gorgeous!!! Plus it looks like it belongs on that finger. You’ve seen beautiful rings on the wrong hands before, right? That ring is stunning, and it looks fantastic on you!