Shrinkage – this actually happened to me. Did you go bigger or go home?

posted 4 months ago in Rings
Post # 2
742 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

if you were getting a whole set might as well get a different design and call it an anniversary gift. i dont see why you would want two of the same for 1 mm of a difference. might as well change out the center stone and save yourself for a band or something else to add bling.


Post # 3
16 posts
  • Wedding: City, State

avafox :  im feeling this too! Mine is 2.5 carats but I have a size 8 finger. To me it sseems small now. I’m considering getting a larger center stone for a milestone anniversary down the line (our 10 year is in 2022) but it’s more of a dream and less of a definite ๐Ÿ™ƒ


ps. Your ring is so beautiful!! ๐Ÿ˜






Post # 4
416 posts
Helper bee

avafox :  

What a beautiful ring!

My husband recently upgraded my ring set. The center stone is a 3 carat moissy and it took me a long time to get used to the size. It doesn’t seem as enormous anymore so I guess you could say that I have experienced shrinkage as well. 


Post # 5
1278 posts
Bumble bee

Shrinkage absolutely exists! I experience it here and there. My center stone is a little smaller than I was originally hoping for. Maybe one day we’ll upgrade the stone, but I’m still loving it right now! I find that looking at my ring in the mirror helps๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ I’m like “dang girl, that thing pops in the mirror! This ain’t small!” 

Post # 6
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

avafox :  yeah it’s a real thing , it happened to me lol… but our 10th anniversary isn’t until 2026 so I’ve got a long way to go!!! LOL ๐Ÿ˜‚ 

Post # 8
4499 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I agree with the other poster, it seems like a lot of cost and hassle for the same ring but 1mm bigger! 

If you think it will make you happy though then go for it! 

Post # 9
109 posts
Blushing bee

You could try to reverse the shrinkage by looking at photos of dainty minimalist rings? then you’ll realize yours is huge. I don’t think going 1mm bigger would solve your problem. I’m the same way but with colored gemstones. I love the color I have but when I see other pretty colors I want them all for myself. You probably just need to stop looking and try to appreciate what you have ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 10
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: London, UK

I wanted a 7mm C&C F1 asscher but it only came in 6.5 or 8mm. I spent many days debating and in the end went with the 8. So relieved I did because for the first couple of days I thought it was too big, but now it seems the perfect size! Shrinkage is so weird!

Post # 11
841 posts
Busy bee

My ring is actually a half carat larger than we tried on. I STILL find it distractingly large. Lol. And it’s only 1.5ct. So, no, I am  Hoping I grow more used to it! 

Post # 12
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2004

Shrinkage is definitely a real phenomenon! I went from a simple yellow gold wrdding band to a 1 carat asha 5 years later. The asha looked nice for only a year so I went with a 7mm unenhanced moissy. That seemed big only for a couple of days! When the Amora Gem Ultra came out, I stayed with the 7mm because I knew I was setting it in a substantial halo. It has the look of a 2.5 carat round. 

My newest project has a DEW of 4 carats! I’m hoping this ring will ward of shrinkage for a long time!

Post # 13
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I’ve been engaged for eight months so far, and I do have moments of shrinkage, but then I need to remind myself that my ring is perfect the way it is, and I wouldn’t want anything bigger!

My stone is a round 6.5mm moissy, but it sits very high (so it faces up larger) and its in a rose-shaped setting that actually offers 10mm of finger coverage (equivalent of almost 4 carats!)… plenty big for me!

Post # 14
6575 posts
Bee Keeper

I started to notice shrinkage and then I got pregnant and couldn’t wear my ring for a few weeks at the end – the shrinkage was gone when I put it back on! Now if I feel it happening again I leave it off for a couple days and that sorts it.

Post # 15
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I sometimes get shrinkage but then I remember that I’m going to get a wedding band and probably an eternity band for our first anniversary. I’d run out of finger if I had a bigger e ring

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