(Closed) Sh*t's About to Get Real….Really Need Advice (Long ish)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Have your mom do it. If your step dad has molested you than he has no right to expect that he can walk you down the aisle. Does your mom know about this molestation? Because if she does and she stayed with him than she also doesn’t have a right to walk you down the aisle. I’m sorry your family sucks.

Post # 4
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why in THE WORLD would you feel guilty about hurting someone who molested you?? HE was hurt??  Sweetie..ask your mom and then go see a counselor. Seriously.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Fuck that dude and his fucking feelings. I’m amazed that you’re able to forgive him and have ANY relationship with him. He SHOULD be in fucking prison instead of at your wedding, so he’ll be just fine sitting on the sidelines while your mother walks you down the aisle. I’m sorry you’ve had so many shitty dudes in your life. I hope your fiance treats you the way you deserve.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I firmly believe that the person who walks you down the aisle should be someone whom you know loves you, respects you, you can trust, etc… not an automatic “because you have been in my life for x number of years” type of thing.  

Post # 7
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think it’s a great idea!  I’d call your aunt right now and ask her too!!  I can see how you wouldn’t want either guy walking you down the aisle.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

^^^^ What they all said.

Neither of your “dads” (I use the term very, very loosely) deserve to walk you down the aisle. Your mom and aunt would be honored. I think it’s a great idea. You want to be surrounded by love on your wedding day, not pain and worry.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m with the previous poster, if your mom knows what your step-dad has done to you, and still chose to be with him, she doesn’t deserve the honour either. but that’s just my opinion.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

 @Coral99:  He molested you when you were a CHILD and he’s still invited to the wedding? No. No, no, no! Have your mom do it. I wouldnt even invite the bastard, let alone let him walk me down the aisle. 

And sidenote, why is your mom still with him? Does she know what he did? 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Coral99:  I’m afraid if your mom doesn’t know what your stepfather did, and if you tell her know, it will open a HUGE can of worms.

Be prepared for any and all negative reactions dear.

We here at the Bee support you either way!

I say in the end, if mom refuses, walk by yourself or have your Fiance meet you halfway and escort you to the alter.

Post # 15
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Coral99:  I have been through it and there’s no way in HELL lI’d let my grandfather near me or my children. Ever. I’d gauge his damn eyes out as I called the cops if he tried to “cop a feel”. And I don’t feel bad at all. To say that you don’t want him trying to cop a feel at your wedding tells me that this never stopped;this worries me for you, hon. How does your Fiance feel about this??

I am looking forward to spending time in Savannah as well as on the island. I hear they are both beautiful πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My thoughts are why is he invited to your wedding, and more importantly have you told your mother what he has done?

I honestly can’t believe you are even in contact with this creep, you don’t owe him a freaking thing! Other then perhaps a nice visit to court followed by a jail sentence!

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