(Closed) Sibling engagement timing questions

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Should you wait a few months to get engaged after a sibling does?

    No, your relationship has its own timing.

    No, not if it is two brothers. Guys don't care.

    Yes, as long as it won't throw off the timing of your wedding. You can secretly plan.

    Yes, it's only courteous.

    Other (explain below, of course!)

  • Post # 32
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    98 posts
    Worker bee

    My younger sister and I will likely get engaged around the same time. if we have both guessed right (durring our respective Oct vacations) it will be less than one week apart! I’m not sure how she feels about the possibility, but I am ecstatic! We are such different people that our weddings will be nothing alike. We both have different strengths and weaknesses, and it would be a great bonding experience to help plan each others weddings! I really hope it happens!

    if she gets engaged on vacation and I don’t, I may be a bit upset at first (I’m 4 years older and have been waiting a longer amount of time), but I will still be happy for her! I’ll get to help her plan her wedding and learn the ins and outs for when its my turn!

    i may be weird, but I actually hope it happens at the same time! 

    Post # 33
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    648 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My brother is planning on proposing at Christmas and then (I’m not sure if she’s fully aware of this) but he thinks they’re going to get married in the fall, a few months after our wedding. I’m not upset about them getting engaged so soon after us, but I would honestly prefer they wait a bit before having their wedding. It’s shallow of me, but it’s especially frustrating because she’ll have an unlimited budget, and I don’t want to have to compete with that, really, when I’m on such a restricted budget.

    Post # 34
    Member
    98 posts
    Worker bee

    @Neetch:  I hadnt thought about that… My sister will likely have an unlimited budget (her SO comes from a wealthy family). My SO and I will be paying ourselves. Maybe she can have her weddinif first and ‘gift’ me some supplies 😉 as long as she doesn’t chose my dream venue well be fine!

    Post # 35
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    1568 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think about 3 weeks is right – that way you are allowing them the time to celebrate their news with everyone. I wouldn’t wait longer than that though – and I would be planning the entire time – making no specific “wedding date” but coordinating with your planner about location, flowers, etc..

    Post # 35
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    10 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I don’t think the engagement date really matters. Sometimes it’s not in our control and might be spontaneous so can’t be helped. I do think if there is a bride already busy planning and has her date booked it would be good etiquette to wait to plan your day and have your time, whilst she has hers. If it’s your sister she will (and you) will want her to be fully and emotionally involved in your wedding which is emotionally very difficult if she is already emotionally full to the brim with her own. If I had control over the engagement though then I would wait If the other person means anything to you. Why rock the boat. it really depends on what type of people they are though and the circumstances/timing of engagement. I would never want to pop someone else’s bubble.

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